Sexting – we’ve all tried it. For some, it’s the icing on the cake in the perfect relationship. For others, sexting is stressful. There are so many do’s and do nots in the world of sexy messages, and we’ve put together your ultimate sexting guide. Ready to take your relationship to the next level? Read on for our favorite tips!

Emoji’s or no emoji’s?

Emoji’s are fun in texting, but are they in place during sexting? This widely varies from couple to couple. Sending the eggplant emoji can set the tone of the conversation, or it can turn a sensual conversation to a joke. Judge the answer to this based on your partner – if he or she uses them, then feel free to join in! If not, wait it out and talk about it when you aren’t in a hot conversation. 

Timing is everything

Making sure that you don’t send that sexy photo or racy text in the middle of the day helps you avoid the annoyance of lack of reciprocation. You may be in the mood in the middle of the day, but your partner could be in the middle of a meeting or busy work day. Poor timing can lead to the exact opposite of the sexy mood you want!

Start out slowly

Send a racy picture (at the right time!) and a winky face. If your partner responds positively, proceed with all the inappropriate and sexy things you want to say. If they don’t.. don’t take it personally. Everyone is in the mood at a different time. 

Give them a heads up

About to send a sexy picture? Send a warning text first. No one wants their friends to see their partners nudes! Or worse, their boss. You would want the same.

Bank your sexy photos

Having a day where you want to sext but don’t feel hot? Pull an old one out of your library! This is a great way to keep the conversation going, and not feeling like you can’t reciprocate. On your period, or a few days late for a wax? Grab that picture from a week ago. No one has to know your secret. 

Be detailed

Tell them how hot their texts are making you. Verbalize that you’re getting wet, and create an image. This is so much more fun than just saying “I want you to do me”. Creating some spice in the messages adds to the anticipation of the in person experience. You want your partner to be imagining you while being incredibly turned on. 

Talk about your fantasies

Many people feel much more comfortable expressing their fantasies over text. Tell your partner your wildest and hottest dreams, and talk about things you want to try. Creating open communication in your sexual relationship truly strengthens your sensual and intimate life together. This also makes it easier to talk about in person, once you broach the topic virtually.

Don’t forget to have fun! Sexting should be enjoyable and exciting, and an amazing enhancement to your relationship. Being able to communicate your favorite positions and what turns you on will make it a lot more fun in the bedroom.