The idea of watching porn together in a relationship is enticing and turns many of us on. Although there are varying differences regarding the opinions of whether or not pornography is healthy in a relationship, those who are open with their sexuality and comfortable in their relationships to bring this idea up and therefore execute it with their loved one can find ample amounts of pleasure and enjoyment with such an act.
After all, instead of choosing to watch pornography alone in secret, doesn’t it sound so much better to enjoy this together as a shared experience, catering to both experiential intimacy and sexual intimacy alike by introducing a refreshing and alluring take on spicing up the recipe or your love life? And considering the fact that this study shows that people who watch more porn actually have more sex, especially when watching porn together, there really are benefits to this sexual experience.
So if you do choose to engage in this with your partner, keep these few tips in mind so your experience is synonymous with fulfillment, joy, and pleasure and that any negativity surrounding the subject may slip away!
It All Begins With Communication
Communication is an absolutely vital aspect for couples watching porn together. You can’t jump straight into this, and communication acts as laying the foundation of the idea to then expand upon it into reality. Take it slow, be attentive to your partner’s emotions and feelings surrounding the idea, and simply talk together about why this might sound like an enjoyable experience.
If they negate the idea, you have to be as equally understanding of their ideals as yours. Ease into it, and express your reasonings as to wanting to try it openly and honestly.
If it sounds like something you do wish to experience, then to promote comfortability, you can lay out some ground rules beforehand, and if during this either of you feels discomfort at any time, it is absolutely okay to step back from it and try it again another time, or never again at all if that’s what you need.
Express your Experience with Pornography
Expressing your experiences with pornography helps to answer the ‘why’ behind the desire to watch porn together. At first thought, your partner might feel like the reason why is because they aren’t enough or that you need more out of your sex life than they can provide to you.
Make it clear that your experience with pornography is nothing more than a way to broaden your sexuality and that it is not an escape from your current connection and intimacy with your partner. After all, there are many health benefits of masturbation, and oftentimes pornography is a much-needed tool in masturbation practices.
Try to be as honest as possible at addressing the fact that you feel like this experience is just a fun way to try something new and that you find excitement in the idea of bringing something that is usually kept in private into your shared sexuality, as the breaking down of barriers leads to more trust and connection. Expanding ourselves and our sexuality through discovery and growth is indicative of a healthy relationship, and if you find pornography to be a beneficial aspect of your growth, then express this experience to your partner so that they may realize this is something that is aimed to benefit you both, not something that is aimed to shun your romanticism away.
What Kind of Porn to Watch Together?
Deciding on the types of porn to watch together that are equally exciting and acceptable for both of you is a huge asset in a healthy experience of watching porn together. The goal here is to find a style of a sex tape that both of you will enjoy and not one that falls entirely under one of your desires.
You might be into a certain style of pornography, but if your partner isn’t, then clearly you want to find something they will like to watch with you that also provides them pleasure. You don’t want them watching something in an effort to make YOU feel good, and you want to view things that are fun and erotic to both of you. If your partner has absolutely no interest in same-sex pornography, for example, then talk about what they would prefer to see instead and find a compromise here.
Once you decide on what kind of porn to watch together, then you can much more effortlessly search through videos within this subject in a way that negates the awkward experience of saying, “no, this totally isn’t for me”. It should be fun, easygoing, and even laughable at points, but it should never be uncomfortable because you are watching something that is out of their/your desires.
Make them Feel Included.
The entire point of couples watching porn together is to create an experience of equally shared pleasure and fun. To ensure that this is the case, you have to make them feel included throughout the whole endeavor.
What we mean by this is not to get distracted entirely by what you are watching. If you want to watch porn solely for your own pleasure, then do it on your own! This is for both of you, so work on building connections during your time spent here.
Sure, watch what is on the screen, but also be attentive to your partner as you do so, and don’t focus every ounce of your attention and sexual desire on the sex tape. Check-in with them as you watch it, ask them what they do or don’t like about it, talk about the features of the video that turn you on, and express to them why and hear them out on the same.
When you build connection through this experience, this creates the opportunity to learn more about each other and your sexualities.
Also, during this experience, you should try and engage with physical touch with your partner to remind them that you are here for them and that the pornography is simply an asset to this moment of shared fun. Engaging in mutual masturbation while doing so is an excellent idea for inducing physical pleasure in conjunction with your visual pleasures, and when you are both feeling good from what is happening, it’s much easier to find comfort and joy in watching porn together.
Just Have Fun with It!
The whole point of watching porn together is to have fun, so try not to take it so seriously and don’t be afraid to laugh and banter about the experience! To do this, just don’t try too hard or expect too much out of it.
As you go through different categories of videos, it’s okay to make little jokes or have funny comments about a video and for them to have the same. The lightheartedness is what it’s all about, so if they aren’t feeling a certain type of pornography, even if you are, just laugh it off and move on. Have a good time as you filter through varying categories- laugh about the massive dick size or how insanely dirty some people are on camera, find equal amazement in some females’ ability to squirt or some males’ massive cumshot. By having fun, you build comfortability, and this comfortability will lead to the connection desired through this experience.
Finish with Intimacy
Watching porn together is often best when it is used as a means of foreplay. It’s a great way to engage in foreplay practices, such as mutual masturbation, and its the perfect opportunity to bust out your favorite sex toys to induce sensational pleasure within your partner with the help of a video to get those juices flowing.
As the intimacy progresses, however, there will be a time where the right thing to do is to turn the computer off and focus only on your partner’s presence.
Couples watching porn together can have quite a lot of fun, but you don’t want to overdo it, and you want to recognize the point when it is time to turn all of your attention back onto your partner. Use watching porn together as a form of foreplay, but once you are both feeling the anticipation build and want to engage in shared sexual intercourse, then it’s time to finish with sheer intimacy.
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