Have you been curious about trying a threesome? Have you had threesomes before but you’re looking to spice them up? Whether you’re new to the game, or a seasoned veteran, there are so many threesome positions out there that you may not know about. Today we’ve put together some information about threesomes, and ways to integrate new moves in your next group activity.
What is a threesome?
The technical definition of a threesome is three people engaged in an activity. Obviously, society hears the word threesome and immediately thinks sexual activity. These days, usage of the word is typically R-Rated: sexual activities involving three people. Basically, three people having sex with one other.
Threesomes may sound like something only sexually adventurous people engage in–but more people have been in a menage-a-trois than you might think. In 2017, a US study with a nationally representative sample of just over 2,000 people found that 18% of men and 10% of women recorded having had a threesome in their lifetimes.
Who has threesomes?
While threesomes may not be for everyone, anyone can participate in one. People from all genders take part in threesomes. The popular combinations are the male-female-male and female-male-female. In threesome terms, the MMF is called a Devil’s Threesome, and FFMs are called Heaven’s Threesome. These terms were coined as such as it’s assumed that it’s very difficult to find two women who would be interested in an FFM threesome. They’re sometimes called Unicorns. There are also female-female-female and male- male-male threesomes. It all depends on your sexual preferences.
Threesome positions
While there are infinite positions that you can try with three people in the mix, here are some of the more popular ones that you might want to try with your sex partners.
Watch party
Sitting or standing in a circle, watching each other masturbate. One of the good starters for a hot night of sex, this position gets everyone in the mood for some fun play time.
How it’s done: Sit or stand around in a circle, facing the center to have a clear view of each other, and start to masturbate and get creative. Teasing each other by showing your arousal is a great way to start the fun.
How to make it better: This is the perfect time to get more comfortable with each other. You can do some of the pre-game discussions here and ask each other about your desires and stuff you want to try in the threesome. You can also set hard limits and explain what you don’t like
Pure Foreplay for Her
One of the more popular MMF threesome positions for foreplay, two males pleasure a woman using hands and mouth, without vaginal penis insertion. This position puts the woman’s pleasure front and center. The aim is to give her maximum pleasure. This is a good position to start from, to get things going in the beginning of a threesome.
How it’s done: The woman gets in a comfortable position where there’s clear access to her whole body. She can stand up, lay down, or sit down. Both men take turns giving her oral sex, kissing or sucking different parts of her body, and touching her all over. One may finger her or perform oral sex, while the other may play with her nipples or make out with her.
How to enhance it: Use toys like vibrators and dildos to enhance her experience.
Voyeur
Sometimes it’s fun to just watch. In this position, two of the participants start to have sex with penetration while the third one watches on while masturbating. This is usually a preferred foreplay activity for a male-female-female encounter, as the male enjoys watching the females play.
How it’s done: Two get into a comfortable position for penetrative sex, oral, or uses dildos/vibrators while the third participant stands/sits/lays down in a position comfortable for masturbating, with a good view of the action.
How to make it better: Do it doggystyle! For females and two males, penetrating from the back gives the two having pentrative sex a chance not only to be watched but also to watch the third player play along. Extra eye contact is a bonus.
Doggystyle Blowjob
This is a combination of Doggystyle penetration and blowjob.
How it’s done: The woman or man gets on all fours and gets entered from both ends. They receive a penis from the back from the first guy, either vaginally or anally, while giving the other partner a blowjob or oral sex. When the woman is on all fours, this position is also sometimes called spit-roasting.
How to make it better: For maximum comfort, it’s best to have the second guy laying on his back so the woman’s neck won’t be strained reaching for his cock in front. This way, she can have her back in a more comfortable position and the guy in the back gets maximum depth as well.
Double penetration
One of the more popular searches in threesome porn, there’s a reason professionals do it. The woman gets penetrated both vaginally and anally, getting the stretched out feeling that some really like. This one is hard but can be enjoyable if all parties are willing to put in the work.
How it’s done: Definitely not a position to rush, this position is usually done with the first guy laying down, the woman getting on top facing the first guy, and arching her back to give the second guy a good anal entry position. There are also variations to this position–the only thing you have to make sure is that entry to either hole is not blocked.
How to make it better: Lube up. A good lube should help make this position smoother and more comfortable for all involved. Also, Don’t switch holes without cleaning up. Going from ass to vagina is a quick way to get an infection. Take a minute to clean up if you want to switch!
Give and Take
One male gets a blowjob while the other man is giving the woman oral sex. This position gives everyone a fair share of both giving and receiving.
How it’s done: The woman lays down or sits up in a position where she can be actively sucking off the other, while the other man eats her out. The ideal position for comfort for everyone is with her laying down with her head propped up.
How to make it better: Use a pillow to support her head to make sure she is comfortable while ensuring that the angle of her head allows for good entry space. In this position, the man thrusting his penis into her mouth has a lot of control, so it’s better if she’s in a position where she can use her arms to signal her comfort level. You don’t want to choke your partner out! Or maybe you do – BDSM can play a key role.
Double Blow
This position is a lot of work for the giver but can be fun if the giver likes giving blowjobs!
How it’s done: Two men stand facing each other and the woman or man kneels in the middle, giving the men alternating blowjobs and handjobs.
How to make it better: This can be very tiring for the other participant, as they’re giving attention to both males. It can be rough on the knees, so make sure there’s some cushion, such as a pillow or blanket. If the bed is firm and the ceiling is high, you can do this on the bed too!
Double oral.
One person receives oral from two people at the same time
How it’s done: Depending on your preferences, any of the participants can be on the receiving end of this position as long as everybody is game. Tag team blow jobs and tag team oral sex are two variations you can try. The receiver can be standing up, sitting down, or lying down.
How to make it better: Sitting with the legs up allow for maximum exposure which can make this position extra easy and enjoyable for people–also opens the anal option! If you so desire to have both holes explored, this allows for that.
Daisy Chain
This position requires more space but it’s basically three people giving oral sex to each other in a chain, so everyone enjoys at the same time.
How it’s done: One partner is pleasuring another, usually orally; the second is pleasing a third, and so on, forming a chain. This can be done with penetration and blow jobs as well.
How to make it better: Do it lying on your sides. More comfortable for everyone involved as your necks can be nestled in each other’s thighs.
Tips to have a great threesome
- Manage your expectations. Many people get interested in threesomes after seeing them in porn. Things can get messy and awkward, so make sure to manage expectations and live in the moment. All parties need to be comfortable for it to be successful.
- Choose your partners carefully! Make sure to take into consideration safety, preferences, privacy, comfort level, and other concerns you might have. It’s best not to just jump in with a friend- this can really make the friendship awkward later on.
- Remember to be respectful. Things can get hot and intense during the actual threeway so it’s absolutely important to discuss boundaries and expectations before the threesome starts happening. Make sure that everyone’s preferences and limitations are heard, and you understand each other’s wants and needs.
- Make sure all parties agree with the toys and other fun stuff that will or might be involved. Buy new dildos/vibrators, and put condoms on them if needed.
- Choose a location that’s safe and comfortable for all parties. If you’re going to be in a threesome with new partners, it’s best to take into consideration each other’s privacy. A hotel room is a great neutral place for this.
- Maintain constant communication while in the threesome. This will ensure no one is uncomfortable or gets hurt.
- Have fun!