Spiritual intimacy is when you and your partner are able to foster a meaningful connection that goes beyond just the body and the mind – it connects your very souls.
Think of it as the idea of soul mates and how you and your partner will be connected and intertwined, should both of you seek to be spiritually intimate.
It might sound odd, but trust us on this one, spiritual intimacy can lead to a more open conversation about a number of things and can create a healthy space in your relationship for you and your partner to feel right at home with each other. Surprisingly (but not really!), spiritual intimacy can lead to higher levels of confidence, feeling more loved, and better sex in your long-term relationship.
It can deepen the bond you and your partner have, even if neither one is religious. Spirituality does not have to mean religion in any case – you can both be people who allow their souls to connect in a spiritually intimate manner without getting religion involved.
So if you’re seeking spiritual intimacy, keep reading on to find out exactly how to foster a space that creates spiritual intimacy, what the examples of it are, and why it’s important that you and your partner connect on a spiritual level. As we said, this is a matter of souls connecting, not just the bodies or minds, and this will require more patience and more openness than other forms of intimacy out there, but we promise, this is very rewarding in itself.
How to Build Spiritual Intimacy with your Partner
Things like religion are, of course, one of the main things people think about when they think about spirituality. If you are, or your partner is, religious, your relationship should have the space in it that allows them to feel free and open about the religion they practice.
If you are the religious one, tell your partner about your faith and if it’s your partner who is the religious one, ask them about things you don’t understand. In this way, not only do you increase tolerance and embody kindness towards each other, but you also get to know and learn new things about each other and other people in the world!
Believe it or not, spiritual intimacy can be really good even for people who are not particularly religious. This can look like talking about what you think of the world around you, what gives you hope, and makes you feel like your life has a purpose.
It can be as simple as sharing anecdotes about hopeful moments in your life and listening to your partner share theirs. Spiritual intimacy can also be fostered by doing things together that help you feel grounded and connected to the earth, not just each other.
In fact, a connection with other people – particularly with your partner – can make you feel like you are fulfilling your purpose of being a kind, loving, and thoughtful partner, which can add so much to your life! In that way, your partner can build spiritual intimacy, which will eventually lead to physical and sexual intimacy, too, since you will feel like you are being heard, and your partner will feel the same. What’s better foreplay than kindness and love and tenderness, right?
Talk to your partner about what gives you meaning in life, and have the space to hear them out when they share. Talk to each other about how the experiences you have had growing up have either made you more in touch with your soul or made you crave that connection which you’re trying to find here. All of these things can help you build spiritual intimacy in your relationship, whether you’re married or dating or any form of arrangement you have with each other.
Why Spiritual Intimacy Matters
Seeking spiritual intimacy can be fulfilling and warm, and it’s important for so many reasons other than just fostering love and care in the relationship.
It can be the basis of empathy in your relationship where you are able to communicate your thoughts on spirituality, and you are able to offer support to your partner when they share theirs. It can help make you and your partner feel more visible and heard, and more supported and cared for if both of you are connected through your souls and are on the same page spiritually.
This can foster kindness in your relationship, which can help you and your partner inevitably feel better about your bodies and minds. Think about it this way, if there is acceptance and love for your souls in the relationship, why would it be any different for your bodies and minds, right?
This can further go on to make both of you feel more accepted and loved during sex and can elevate your sex life in a number of ways, too, therefore increasing libido. Remember, being intimate without sex is the key to sexual intimacy.
Especially if you or your partner is religious, talking about spirituality can help you be more sensitive and caring about their needs and desires and help you create that long-lasting love and care in the relationship you strive for.
Trust us when it comes to intimacy, we’re talking about all kinds of it, and we can tell you one thing for sure – there is no way of separating the different types of intimacy in your relationship, and fostering one kind of it inevitably means adding more layers to your relationship and your life. Think of this as not just for the relationship and your partner, but for yourself, too, where you allow yourself the space to get in touch with your soul and spirituality!
Examples of Spiritual Intimacy
While you can foster spiritual intimacy by just beginning the conversation at home with your partner and discussing things like spirituality and religious inclinations, you can take it one step further by adding a twist to it!
Try grounding techniques that allow you to get in touch with your core – plan a picnic out in a garden with your partner and let yourselves feel the Earth and Nature around you. This can be great for boosting your libido and make your sex life better, too, by adding more connections with your partner and letting you feel in touch with your body.
There are other ways of letting spiritual intimacy lead to more intimate sex with your partner, too.
These can include going on a mountain retreat together where Nature surrounds you and your partner, and the clean air of the countryside can help with your spirituality, too. Sign up for woodworking or pottery classes together if a mountain retreat isn’t immediately possible – this can give you things to do with your mind and body both, allowing you to put your soul into creating something with someone you love. If none of these interest you, maybe yoga classes will! You can sign up for couples’ yoga together and help each other build core strength or even get in touch with the rhythm of your partner’s body to help you connect spiritually and emotionally, leading to more intimate and better sex!
There are so many ways of getting to know your partner, and allowing spiritual intimacy in your relationship can help you get there with your partner, with amazing results.