Do you know that warm, comforting, and intimate feeling that fulfills your soul as you pull your partner close to hold them tightly while spooning? It’s a wonderful feeling indeed, and one that can be further heightened in terms of sexuality should you so wish.
By practicing sideways sex, sometimes also called spooning sex, you can create the same aura of emotions as sexless spooning does, but with the fulfillment of also being pleasured to a toe-curling orgasm that is driven by intimacy and close connection.
In this guide to sideways sex, we’re going to hit on a few of the most important fundamentals in terms of incorporating this position into your own love life, and how you can make this position as absolutely riveting as possible for both yourself and your partner.
Start With Spooning
One of the best ways to approach sideways sex is to first begin with standard spooning.
By initially cuddling, you can use this as a unique form of foreplay that doesn’t focus on physical sensation, but that promotes one’s desire to have sex through catering to the mental side of things.
As one partner brings their back close to the chest of their man/woman (the little spoon), as this sex position cares not about genders, the other will pull them tightly against them (the big spoon). Use this embrace to caress your partner’s skin with light touches and tickles if you are he/she who is acting as the big spoon.
Softly rub their hair and kiss the back of their neck, and if you want to really create a desire-filled sexual tension, try also brushing their erogenous zones with your fingers, like behind their knee, the bottoms of their feet, or their lower back just above their buttocks.
The little spoon can use their positioning as a means to begin lightly grinding on their partner, a sign that it just might be time to take the clothes off and soak the sheets.
The Little Spoons Positioning for Sideways Sex
The best part about sideways sex is the angle that it provides for orgasm-inducing penetration. The little spoon has all the control they need over the way in which they choose to arch their back and extend their butt, and they can (and should!) easily adjust this based on their likings.
The little spoon starts by laying on their side, and they can change the angles simply by lifting their knees closer or further away from their chest and curling their abdomen/head downwards.
When it comes to the little spoon’s hands, they can reach them around to grab onto their partner, but this can be a little bit tricky, so there’s a pretty good chance that the little spoon will get to quite literally sit back and relax.
The Big Spooning Sex
There’s not much complicated about the positioning of the partner acting as the big spoon and who is doing the thrusting.
Laying on their side behind their partner, the big spoon can pull their partner close for intimacy or push them further away and hold onto their waist for a rougher approach, as this sideways sex position allows for a pounding that is as equally on par as what can be done in doggy position, but with the support and comfort of the bed.
Tips for Sideways Sex
Let’s chat about a few different ways that you can approach sideways sex to make this experience as invigorating as possible.
Intimate Spooning Sex
Just as cuddling is extremely intimate, so can sideways sex be should you so choose.
To have intimate sideways sex, once you are inside of your partner, wrap your arms around their body and pull them tightly close to you. Instead of thrusting in and out, instead, enjoy the non-movement of this position and the timeless trance of what it feels like when you are holding your partner against your body whilst deep inside of them in this sexual bear hug.
Your mouth will be close to their head, so not only can you use this to your advantage in terms of kissing their upper back, their neck, or sucking on their earlobes, but you can also whisper the most erotic of dirty or sensual talk right into their ear.
In this position, your partner’s butt will be very exposed, and the big spoon can use their hand to rub it, grab it, and gently love-smack it.
Once again, erogenous zones are key. These special zones initiate sexual feelings, of which some even feel directly in their sex organs, and can do wonders at heightening an orgasm. You should be able to easily access your partner’s legs, so try grabbing one of their ankles to bring their foot close to you so that you can hold it in your hand and rub the bottom of it while you remain intimate and close.
Rough Sideways Sex
Just because this position is synonymous with intimacy surely does not mean that you cannot be plenty of rough with your partner.
For kinky and a little more hardcore sideways sex, heed these few tips!
Hair pulling is an absolute go-to in this position. Push your partners back slightly away from you and grab their hair. Use their hair like reigns to control their movements, and the harder you pound them the tighter you should squeeze it and pull their head back.
When you pull their hair hard enough, you might even be able to sneak in a quick kiss for a dominant assertion of your love.
As well as hair pulling, there’s never an easier position to as well practice choking or gagging. The big spoon can effortlessly wrap their arm around their partner to grab their neck, and this is again another way to showcase a dominant control that will make your partner scream for more.
As good as staying deep within your partner feels, thrusting and pounding is so much fun in this sideways sex position. Try grabbing their waist with both hands from behind. Use your hands and arm strength to pull and push their body in conjunction with your own thrusting movements, and with the support of the bed, you should be able to go as hard as they can handle.
Sideways Sex with a Sex Toy
Ready to up the climax game to a new epitome of sensation? If so, then try incorporating some sex toys in conjunction with this position.
A vibrator is a total win here. The woman can place it right between her legs before closing them, and this will allow for dual stimulation of both their partners thrusting and also of what a vibrator can do in terms of sending fireworks of pleasure to their clitoris and other nerve endings.
This position is also a perfect one to experiment with anal pleasures. Because the butt is fully bent and exposed, when playing around with anal this is one of the most comfortable ways to do so as it provides full access to the anal cavity.
After your partner is inside, have them insert a butt plug or an anal vibrator with plenty of lube as they hold you close to discover just how incredible an orgasm derived from simultaneous anal and vaginal pleasures can be.