Being single doesn’t mean your sex life is suddenly non-existent. On the contrary, now it’s the time to focus entirely on your pleasure and treat yourself to incredible orgasms. How to achieve it, you might ask? The answer (or at least one of them!) is shower masturbation.
Keep reading to find out how to masturbate in the shower. Things might get a little wet…
1. Use a non-slip mat
Shower masturbation is incredibly sexy and can help you explore self-pleasure from a different side; the sound of water running allows you to moan freely, and the warmth on your skin can give you a feeling of comfort. But it can also go wrong very quickly. If you’ve ever seen a class C comedy, you know those shower accidents happen, but they can turn a lot uglier than what’s shown on the screen. That’s why you should invest in a non-slip shower mat. It will prevent a potential injury and save you from your housemates finding you in a very awkward situation.
Alternatively, you can consider installing a grab bar that you can hold onto. Using just one hand limits your options, but at least it can give you peace of mind. If you can’t get either yet, you can always start from a sitting position; lean back, then spread and extend your legs so that they rest against the shower door. It will keep you safe from slipping and give you direct access to your clitoris. Win-win!
2. Use waterproof sex toys
This goes without saying. If you want to incorporate sex toys into the play, which we highly suggest doing, remember to make sure that they can be safely submerged underwater. Luckily, most manufacturers (wink wink, V for Vibes!!) now make products that are waterproof to meet popular demand. It might not be talked about, but shower masturbation is extremely common and for a very good reason. If you haven’t tried it yet, you’ll soon understand why.
3. Get the right lube
I hate to break this to you, but water isn’t lube. Water-based lube isn’t great either. So what’s the solution? One of the most recommended options is silicone-based lube that doesn’t get washed away with water quickly and fulfills its role well but isn’t impossible to remove at the same time.
While you might feel like you don’t have to use any lubrication because your vagina works like a clock, you should know that adding this simple detail can significantly increase your pleasure. For example, lube can make your clitoris and nipples more sensitive and heighten the sensations while you’re fingering yourself – even if you get wet easily, water might cause traction and get into the way of the in and out movement. The only thing you should worry about is getting the product where it’s not supposed to be. You can probably imagine what would happen if you didn’t notice that the lube got on the floor, and it’s not a pleasant image. Additionally, silicone-based lube isn’t recommended if your toys are made of silicone, as it can damage them. An alternative lubricating agent could be an oil such as coconut. We have a whole list dedicated to DIY Lube Ideas.
4. Get creative
If you don’t own any sex toys, it doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy shower masturbation. On the contrary, a showerhead works as well as a vibrator, and it allows you to explore a variety of different kinds of sensations. But first, there are a few safety measures you should consider.
Rule number one is to make sure you don’t let too much water get inside your vagina as it can affect its healthy bacteria and the PH levels and result in a nasty infection. The cleaner doesn’t always mean better.
Secondly, be mindful of the temperature. Start with a lukewarm stream first and then decrease or increase it if necessary. Burning your private parts isn’t fun, not to mention extremely painful. You can point the stream directly towards your clitoris and either hold it steady or move it in circular motions. The technique of shower head masturbation depends very much on you; you can mimic the mode of your favorite vibrator or experiment with what feels best. Simply detach the shower from the hose for a stronger sensation and enjoy a fast and powerful climax. If you have a shower head that comes with different settings, you’ve just won a jackpot.
5. Play with different temperatures
Once you’ve had a bit of play with a shower head masturbation, you can bring it to the next level and take advantage of adjusting temperatures, using shower masturbation to promote temperature play. Whether a hot or cold stream is more pleasurable depends on the preference but switching from one to another continuously can act as a great stimulator and send shivers down your spine. Don’t be afraid to experiment a little. For example, you can bring an ice cube with you and trace it along your erogenous zones while treating your back to hot water. This method is guaranteed to amplify your sensations and increase arousal.
6. Get a suction dildo
Yes, suction cup dildos are a thing, and they’re a real godsend, especially if you’re single. All you have to do is put it against the shower door and let the suction work its magic. Make sure you attach it at your pelvis level, so you don’t have to go on your tiptoes and risk slipping. Ideally, use a non-slip to ensure you’re as safe as possible. From there, do what feels good.
It can be having a go at double penetration (isn’t female masturbation amazing?). Or it can be stimulating your clitoris at the same time. The choice is yours. You know what they say; no one knows what goes on behind closed doors, so take advantage of having this moment for yourself. Just don’t forget to detach the dildo once you’re done – I’m sure it’s not the kind of surprise your housemates would like.
7. Additional rules that can make shower masturbation better:
If you’re wondering how to masturbate in the shower, the truth is that a lot will depend on your individual situation. If your shower is quite spacious, you might be able to masturbate in a sitting or half-lying position. Similarly, if it’s connected to a bathtub, even better; you can experiment with different body positioning and benefit from an even stronger stream (the faucet, duh). And don’t forget the logistics. If you masturbate with toys, make sure you keep the showerhead away from your face and avoid the soap getting into your private parts.
Secondly, don’t be afraid to go a bit over the top. Treat this experience as a mini holiday and reward yourself with a relaxing atmosphere. Nothing can help you set the mood better than lighting up the candles and playing sensual music. Or you can put on some ethical porn if that’s what gets you going, but make sure you keep electronics at a safe distance.
And don’t forget to invest some time in the preparation before. It might be time-consuming, but it will make this experience unforgettable. For example, you can read an erotic story or watch porn to get in the mood before you step under the shower. Oh, and now you don’t have to worry about discharge and feeling unclean – here comes the perfect solution to feeling horny on your period.