It is absolutely okay and actually pretty common to be sexually frustrated as a human being in the world. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, you’re probably going to find more people on the planet who are sexually frustrated than those who aren’t, and that’s just human nature.
What one chooses to do about sexual frustration can depend on how one views sexual frustration, and that’s exactly what we’re here to do today!
At V for Vibes, we believe that more and more knowledge about sexual health and life is a great way of dealing with the questions you might have on any topic under the general category of ‘sex’. We’ve put together everything we could to help you get a comprehensive understanding of sexual frustration with this concise list.
If you’re looking for more concrete ways of dealing with your sexual frustration, we recommend this article for you! We do suggest you give this a read, too, along with the other one so that you can fully understand the workings of sexual frustration, and then pair those with the ways of dealing with sexual frustration since the two aren’t mutually exclusive.
Really, if you think about it, one of the ways of combating sexual frustration is understanding it before acting on it – that’s really what all of it is about! Here’s a quick rundown on what sexual frustration is, what causes it, and other questions you might have about it:
What is sexual frustration?
Even though the name itself is pretty self-explanatory, it can still be quite difficult to exactly pin down one singular definition of sexual frustration. It can manifest in different ways in different people, given that the symptoms vary so much and affect everyone in various ways. But it is simply this frustration you feel with the lack of sex you are having or the kind of sex you’re having. It can be different for everyone, like we said, and can be very elusive to figure out, too, but one good place to start is to ask yourself why you’re having the sex you’re having and what it makes you feel.
If your answer is largely positive, with good feelings and satisfaction, chances are you are enjoying a healthy sex life, but for most people, that isn’t the case. If your answers are neutral or specifically negative and your feelings about sex – before, during, or after the process – are negative, that’s a concern and can be what sexual frustration feels like. It can be irritating, upsetting, and really get under your skin, so understanding it first is a really important step towards addressing it.
What might cause sexual frustration?
The number of things that cause sexual frustration is vast and vary in their nature. Each thing is so delicately woven into aspects of regular everyday life that it can sometimes be difficult to tell when we’re experiencing sexual frustration. And that in itself can be very upsetting, not fully understanding what is happening to your body.
This might explain part of the frustration you feel – not understanding or being able to explain can lead to a feeling of powerlessness and loss of control. It can be very helpful to begin to learn more about your body and the things you’re experiencing, along with their causes.
Everyday occurrences might add to this. If you’re unhappy or generally upset about something in life or are feeling pressured into having sex, or are feeling unheard and neglected during sex, these are all very common causes of being sexually frustrated. Even life-changing events, especially those that could possibly induce depression, can be a source of sexual frustration. The only way to get to the root of it really is to sit down and think of when you began to feel what you feel and how you would describe the feeling to someone. In that, you can begin to see strands of answers that can help you deal with your sexual frustration.
Sexually Frustrated Symptoms
Sexual frustration can manifest in a number of ways, both physically and psychologically. It can really affect things like your mental wellbeing, your relationship with your body, and even relationships with people in your life. While the symptoms can be difficult to isolate, you can begin by asking yourself the very basic question of asking why you’re having sex the way you’re having it currently.
Assessing the answers through that will help you move closer in terms of understanding your sexual frustration and how it manifests itself. It can be things like general irritation or easily snapping at people you care about or your partners, or it can result in depressive episodes where fatigue really kicks in. It can also alter your relationship with your own body, not being able to orgasm, or feeling a buildup and some tension in your body without any release to follow it – all of these are symptoms and signs of sexual frustration.
Even a change in libido and how frequently you have sex can be a sign – whether you become more sexually active than you usually are or begin to have far lesser sex and a lower sex drive, all of these can point towards sexual frustration and suggest that you need to find ways to deal with it before it gets worse and takes a toll.
The drawbacks/effects of sexual frustration on one’s personal self and one’s relationships
Sexual frustration can cause a lot of unwanted and unpleasant emotions and can stir one up in multiple ways. From grief to anger, one can experience a wide range of emotions throughout the day, and that alone can lead to feelings of instability and uprootedness. This can be very disorienting for the self, but also for the people around you. It’s almost like you aren’t yourself – you’re more irritated, more quickly annoyed, and easily ticked off. These are all symptoms of sexual frustration and can be very damaging to your relationships with the people around you and with yourself.
It can also complicate your relationship with your body, which can almost feel like a betrayal leading to negative emotions and grief filling your body. If you’re in a relationship, your partner is also getting affected by these changes you’re experiencing, and they’re most likely not having a great time either. It can be difficult trying to navigate sexual frustration in a relationship, but you can take so many steps like this article suggests!
How to deal with Sexual Frustration
We’ll give you the basics so you’re prepped before you head on over to the other article, which gives you detailed ways of dealing with sexual frustration. One of the easiest things you can do in this situation is to openly and honestly communicate with your partner and tell them what you’re feeling in the most transparent way possible. It is likely that it will hurt them, so remember to be kind and gentle when you do bring it up with your partner and ask for their input. Also remember to keep an open mind and heart to the suggestions they provide, remember that they care about you and want what’s best for you!