Long-distance relationships are complicated for both parties. With this, you have to get seriously creative in an effort to ensure that sexual satisfaction is fully met. 

Try throwing in some sexual punishment for long-distance relationships, and we’ve hit the most complex yet alluring game that’s ever existed. Don’t stress; it’s still doable. It’s just going to take some patience, creativity, and some extra work to find success in a long-distance, BDSM-inspired game. 

Let’s put our heads together and take advantage of everything modern-day technology has graced us with. That little thing in your hand… aka your cell phone; yeah, it makes all of this possible. Hell, it makes the option for long-distance relationships possible where we once had to rely on letters! I mean, aren’t letters romantic? Sure, and if you want to surprise your long-distance partner with something special, go ahead and send them one. But we are in the 21st century, and patience isn’t the virtue it used to be. 

Oh, and we can’t forget about the new and improved sex toys that are coming out on the daily. All of these things are you and your long distance partner’s best friend and help to ensure that you can, in fact, cater to the sexuality of a long distance relationship. 

Sexual punishment for long distance relationships- like, HOW!? 

Two words: cell phone… or video calls.

Using phone calls, text messages, and most importantly, video chats open up a whole new world to long distance relationships. It not only gives you the capability to communicate every hour or minute, lol, but lets you have some form of sex life with them even when they’re across the country. 

Let’s skip past the more obvious ideas like sexting and phone sex, both of which are fantastic ways to maintain a sexual relationship with your partner. I want to get a little dirtier with the idea here. How about masturbating on a video call together? Bingo! Really allow yourself to get into the moment, staring into your partner’s eyes through that high definition screen and let your orgasm roar… This experience makes the moment feel more realistic and like you’re actually face to face with one another. I think you get the idea of it.

Long-Distance BDSM Punishments 

For those of us that are a little more freaky, wink wink, and want to get into the long distance BDSM punishments, I do, in fact, have some ideas for you. They might not be as good as being present with your partner, but hey, you do what you can do, right?

If you’re the long distance dom, there are a million little ways for you to control your partner, even with them a trillion miles away… or at least, that’s what it feels like. Try using texts to control your partner’s orgasms. Ya know, like send a sexy sext saying they aren’t allowed to come for a certain amount of time. Or tell them they are only allowed to come when the obligation you lie out in front of them is met, such as forcing them to speak to you in a certain way or send you a dirty photo, as long as this is consensual, of course! BDSM is about control and submission, but this only works when all parties feel safe and agree to total consent. 

Try making them send you a video of them spanking themselves. Not good enough? How about a sex toy or machine that is completely controlled online… Oh yeah!!! You can SO do that now. Make your partner’s long-distance submissive punishment be them on the dildo that you’re controlling, and raise or lower the vibration frequency as you wish. It doesn’t matter how far away the two of you are; if you’re looking for the ultimate control toy for your submissive partner, this will totally do the trick. It’ll do more than the trick. It will change the whole long distance BDSM punishments game for good. 

In terms of verbal punishments, it’s rather straightforward to cater to the vocal side of things, as many submissives love to be degraded, and if this sounds like yourself or your partner, then get a little mean with what you have to say to them! Call them your little slut, tell them their cock is small, and rag on them in any way you can that is degrading but still in line with the rules you have agreed on. If this isn’t for you, then always opt to skip out on it. 

Chances are, you’ll be playing this game even when you’re in town for the weekend. It’s hot, it’s sexy, and it is the perfect power play move. When you’re in a BDSM relationship or starting to play around with the idea of it, you’re going to want to keep the reward system in mind. With punishment comes reward. Try sending your long distance submissive a sexy gift. This could be anything from new lingerie to a new sex toy that they plan to see you using in your next online masturbation video date. 

Send self-bondage for them to put on themselves, get kinky with the ideas, and really show them they’re not in control, regardless of the distance. If you want a little more inspiration, visit our article “A Guide to Long Distance Relationship Gifts”.

Maybe try sending them the Tyche spanking whip from our website to ensure they get the proper self-spanking you expect them to. You can also find loads of sex toys that will torture and pleasure your submissive partner, or your damn self, at the same time. It’s totally doable, and in fact, you should be doing these things. 

These are some of the best and only ways to truly play on your long distance BDSM relationship. Let’s not forget about the aftercare for your submissive partner. Since you aren’t physically there to provide them with emotional support and love, you’ll need to send them things to make them feel close to that feeling again. These gifts could be simple, such as their favorite stuffed animal, a relaxing bath scrub, or a blanket to represent the warmth of your body that would normally be there for the aftermath. 

Take care of your partner in the relationship, and don’t overuse the fact that you can hang up the phone and not answer because you’re in a long distance relationship. If that is part of your long distance submissive punishments list, just make sure to check in on them afterward. Long-distance can be fun and hard at the same time. Being open and communicating your feelings to one another is an extremely important aspect of this type of relationship. 

With a long distance BDSM relationship comes the difficulties of not being physically present. That is, in fact, a huge part of the BDSM world. I’m here to encourage you not to let that factor stop you. There are plenty of simple and downright freaky ideas for you to use in your relationship, no matter the miles between the two of you. Use technology to your advantage, set up those sexual video chats, dominate your submissive through text messages and calls. Be your kinky self and express your feelings and emotions through it all. This type of relationship could seriously spice things up for you both. It could give you new sexual fantasies and even take away some of the shy pressures you might feel in the face-to-face scenario, making for better sex when together. 

Be your dirty self while also caring for your person and their needs that come from being away from you. Of course, never forget about your own mental state as well. If things are hard on you, voice that to your partner. They should be there for you just as you care for them. That’s important in any relationship, but especially long-distance… taking this care one step further with long-distance BDSM.