If you’re wise enough to own a sex toy, then you know exactly how much fun they can be! No matter your sexual preference or sexual kink, everyone should feel comfortable having a sash of toys in their bedside drawer to experiment and fulfill sexual desires. Not only are sex toys be beneficial in many ways, but they also open the door to different branches of sexuality. 

Have you always wanted to explore a sexual kink or fetish but have never had the opportunity? Building your sex toy collection can help you satisfy your sexual cravings, where you can dip your toes into the world of kink and the unexplored before fully jumping in. 

Sex Toys and Sexual Kinks.

When you are starting out on your kink explorations, it can be a minefield of information to try to take in. Every website, kink blog, and shop has its own suggestions for what should be in your ‘starter kit’, but ultimately, it’s down to you and your preferences. Sex toys and kink equipment, just like sex and sexual kinks themselves, are subjective! But what exactly is kink? A kink is defined as a sexual activity that falls outside of sex that society traditionally considers “acceptable.” That can include everything from role-playing to bondage to whips and chains. A fetish technically refers to an attraction to an inanimate object, although this includes body parts, such as feet (like a foot fetish), so a fetish is a type of kink too, as kinks and fetishes are intertwined. 

No matter what you’re into, kink is about consent, communication, and compromise. Before trying any new sex act, obtaining enthusiastic, continuous consent from all parties involved is a must. Your kinks may not perfectly align with your partner’s, and that’s okay. However, what you can do, is fulfill your own sexual kinks and fetishes alone…with the help of your new best friends- sex toys! 

Of course, there is a multitude of benefits that come with owning sex toys, such as stress relief, relaxation, the release of happy hormones, and overall mental wellbeing. However, exploring your sexual desires, fantasies, and sexual kinks with the help of sex toys can be a great way to satisfy these urges alone before executing them with someone else. 

Cuckhold Sexual Kink. 

If watching your partner with someone else is a turn-on, as a cuckold is one of the most popular sexual kinks, sex toys can replace an actual person without introducing someone else into your bedroom. Men can watch their partner satisfy themselves using a dildo or vibrator that would normally be them, or women can watch men use realistic latex vaginas for an extra thrill. The human mind is filled with sexual scenarios, fantasies, and opportunities, but sometimes not everyone wants to actually do them. If you do, that’s totally fine, but for those that would rather keep those fantasies actual fantasies, sex toys can be an excellent investment. 

Whatever your desire, the world of sex toys really is your oyster. Want to fake a Gloryhole or be blindfolded and trust your partner to use the toy of their choice? As long as you’re happy, sex toys can play an integral role in your bedroom with a partner. While having sexual kinks and fantasies is completely normal and generally pretty harmless, some of them can push the envelope and require a high level of trust between partners. If you and your partner decide to play out a fantasy, make sure you’re both on the same page, deciding on a safe word prior to beginning, and both parties consent throughout the session.

Some of us are a lot more sexually adventurous in our heads (you know who you are!) but have no desire to outplay these fantasies in real life. Choosing the right sex toys to suit your inner sexy self is really where you can be free to experiment with yourself and your partner… (if you want to that is). 

If going full BDSM isn’t really your thing, you can purchase items such as a starter butt plug kit, nipple clamps, or even your first whip to keep it simple. Whatever your limits are, sex toys can give you the choice and freedom to experiment in whatever way you want to. You are in control of how many sexual kinks you wish to explore, and that’s a great way to open your mind (and legs!) to new, sexual pleasures alone or with someone else. 

Everyone deserves to be pleasured, and, in this day and age, it’s perfectly normal for people to own an array of sex toys. Why not push your boundaries a little and purchase a toy you may never have thought of purchasing? You may be surprised by the outcome! Lots of toys come with remote controls that can be adjusted from afar. Bring some excitement to your relationship by wearing a sex toy that your partner can control in public. Their reaction may be a turn-on- but you will be biting your lip with pleasure. VforVibes stocks the Proserpina Black Bullett Egg Vibrator and Ben Wa Balls with remote control– an ideal toy that will really spice up your sex life! Public kink here we come.