Are you one of those people who turn the sound off when they’re watching porn or those that need the right background noise to feel aroused? Whichever category you fall into, you probably don’t realize how much your sense of hearing shapes how you experience sex. In this article, you’ll learn about the connection between the sense of hearing and sensual sex to find out how you can become more in tune with your sensuality.
What’s the Connection Between the Sense of Hearing and Sex?
There’s more to it than moaning…
1. It can create various sexual experiences
The amazing thing about the 5 senses is that they influence how you perceive certain sensations and elicit very different reactions depending on how you use them. For example, having your partner talk to you in a soft voice is a very different experience than being called derogatory names. Engaging the sense of hearing can help you explore various kinks and scenarios, as well as deepen the emotional bond with your partner and get in touch with your sensuality.
2. It can help you strengthen the bond between you and your partner
Sex is a lot more than just taking your clothes off and doing it. If you want to enjoy sensual sex, you have to make sure that you have a good connection with your partner. This can be cultivated through communication. Your partner can show his support by using words of affirmation, and you can voice your needs and wants to improve the overall experience. No matter how dirty sex is, there’s always room for a bit of sensuality and intimacy, so it’s important that you learn how to listen to your partner and connect with him on a deeper level.
3. It can boost your libido
Do you know those guided meditations that promise to help with your self-esteem, decrease stress and boost your productivity? You can find a range of meditations that can increase your libido too. Even listening to songs with sexual lyrics can turn you on and help you get into the mood.
4. It can be distracting
Unfortunately, as amazing as hearing your partner moan is, the sense of hearing can sometimes work against you. Imagine that you just got home from work and want to have sex with your partner to release stress, but your flatmates come back home and start talking in the kitchen. We’ve all been there in one way or another; if you’re under a lot of stress or simply tired, it’s difficult to concentrate, and noise can ruin your experience. However, the good news is that you can easily create an atmosphere that allows you to fully focus on pleasure and enjoy sensual sex (more on this later).
5. It can affect your mood
On a similar note, hearing outside noises when you’re in the middle of sex can be upsetting and ruin your mood and even condition you to feel stressed every time you get intimate with your partner in the future. Luckily, you can keep your libido high by using relaxing music to manage your anxiety and calm your mind. Keep reading to find out how else you can use the sense of hearing to your advantage.
How to Have Better Sex By Utilizing the Sense of Hearing
1. Become a better listener
Make sure that you and your partner have an honest conversation about your sex life once in a while. If your partner raises any concerns, make sure to listen to what he has to say and make an effort to understand where he’s coming from. And remember, don’t just listen to words; pay attention to the tone of voice too. For example, if you fancy having sex and your partner agrees but isn’t too enthusiastic about it, it’s worth putting his needs first and leaving the intercourse for when you both feel up for it.
2. Purchase a quiet sex toy
A lot of sex toys can be pretty intimidating if they’re loud, plus the noise can make your experience a lot less private. If you worry about being heard during sex, know that incognito sex toys exist and can even be used discreetly in public.
3. Learn how to be mindful during sex
If you struggle to let go and allow the sounds to happen naturally, it’s important that you learn how to feel more grounded. Whenever you have sex, try to prevent your mind from wandering by paying attention to how your partner’s skin feels against yours and focusing on every other sensation you experience. Eventually, you’ll be able to relax and become more vocal during sex which will turn both you and your partner on. And remember, even if your moans sound awkward to you, they’re music to your partner’s ears.
4. Try dirty talk
And if you don’t have to worry about expressing yourself during sex, you should give dirty talk a go. Having your partner talk dirty to you is extremely arousing, but so is speaking to him in the same way. Hearing yourself talk can help you get in touch with your sensuality and make you feel more empowered. And if dirty talk is out of your comfort zone, you can always try calling each other pet names.
5. Try positive affirmations
If you want to have sensual sex, becoming familiar with affirmation is a good place to start. Using affirmations can be as simple as paying each other’s compliments or commenting on how certain sensations make you feel. Have your partner praise your efforts whenever you go down on him and ask him to be more vocal about what’s he’s experiencing to maximize sensual vibes. You never know; maybe you will discover that you’ve had a praise kink all along!
6. Create the right atmosphere
Thanks to the sense of hearing, you can create any type of atmosphere regardless of what kind of sex you want to have. If you want to have sensual sex, you can play slow music to get into the mood, and if you’re into something more primal, you can play porn. Playing music will also mask the sounds of pleasure so you can feel comfortable having sex even if you don’t live alone.
7. Explore your kinks
Experimenting with the sense of hearing also allows you to explore role play. Hearing your partner tell you what to do or use affirmative language can enhance the experience if you’re into sex and submission. Similarly, if you like dominating, your voice is a huge part of your character and can make your partner submit to you and result in a long-term confidence boost. You can also play around with phone sex and build sexual tension when you and your partner are apart. Try masturbating when you’re on the phone and enjoy the way your partner’s moans turn you on.
8. Listen to erotic audiobooks
If you struggle with low libido or accessing your sensuality, you should try listening to erotic audiobooks. According to some women, they manage to achieve an orgasm without touching themselves, just by focusing on the reader’s voice and letting their imagination take over. Even if you don’t come like that, it will still increase your arousal and translate into more satisfying intercourse.