Have you ever dabbled with the erotic experience of self-bondage?
If so, then you may have found to enjoy it, but there’s a good chance that the thoughts of what could go wrong stopped you from finishing the very first time.
Although intimidating, as certain dangers are associated, self-bondage is a sexual discipline that can lend for wild amounts of pleasure when practiced with safe techniques and the right mindset.
What is Self-Bondage?
Self-bondage refers to the use of restraints on oneself within a sexual environment for erotic pleasure. It is a form of erotic bondage, but unlike most other forms, self-bondage can be practiced alone.
It may include anal self-stimulation, self-observation, self-binding, and/or the employment of fantasy props.
Why do People Enjoy Bondage?
It’s fun and interesting! Even the best couple’s love lives stale from time to time, and BDSM injects some riveting and intriguing excitement back into sex.
Because self-BDSM is so unlike and away from normal life, it can provide the bondage players with a thoroughly satisfying and trance-like feeling throughout the session.
By maintaining power over their mind and body so much, they use this to define new dimensions of pleasure that become a momentary escape from reality.
Being a sub, they enjoy the feeling of security of being totally under self-command. They enjoy the feeling they get from satisfying themselves without the need for another person, and this creates an aura of self-empowerment, ingenuity, self-confidence, and connection with one’s personal self.
Types of Self-bondage
Sensual Self-Bondage has easy escape mechanisms with the aim of experiencing a sensation of immobility.
Strict Self-Bondage is devoid of a release mechanism for a period of time. After that period is over, these mechanisms themselves may activate and release. This type provides a greater degree of helplessness, making the whole process ingenious.
Self-Bondage Techniques and Activities
A vast number of people believe that self-bondage techniques can’t be as steamy as bondage with a partner, but the truth is that there are many exciting BDSM self-bondage techniques that you can practice all alone. Here are some of them and how!
Items used
The items primarily used by people for this purpose are nipple clamps, household items like clothespins, gags, and transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation(TENS) devices.
TENS devices have proven to be effective for self-BDSM enthusiasts as they can control its intensity, which helps them control their pain infliction levels and even help them top or bottom all at once. Cupping also works well in solo mode.
With Sensory deprivation, putting on a sensory deprivation blindfold or mask can be very exciting, and it entails minimal risk. Wearing it for an extended period of time, however, can be quite mind-altering and kinky.
Wax play done properly does not require a partner, either for the play itself or for safety considerations.
When it comes to using cuffs, velcro cuffs are highly recommended for self-use.
With using ropes, there is always a risk of getting stuck. Ropes should not only be used with past experience, and you should use carabiners with ropes that will click open whenever you wish. One must be able to escape their bonds alone or else the chance of danger is higher.
Rope harness hogties work like a charm, but needs a harness to secure it to.
Some people like to make handcuffs with ropes so that they are more secure.
They use locks for this purpose which can only be opened by a key. People practice this because they can’t get the mental stimulation they want without complete immobilization, and that can become dangerous.
It can turn into a nightmare if it goes wrong, or an orgasm-induced dream if it goes right!
How to Self-Bondage?
It’s advisable to start in small bits and work your way up. Beginners can get going with just a pair of handcuffs and a feather tickle.
Add more toys and tools over time, and before you know it you will be a BDSM guru! It just takes practice and experience.
Pre-requisites of a Bondage Session
To be safe when doing this sort of thing solo, you really do need some sort of immediately usable emergency release.
Having a delayed safety net like a friend, family, or neighbor to come check-in during the future is a really good idea, but it isn’t really enough if you need an immediate release.
Risks; Accidental Death by Self-Bondage
Autoerotic Fatalities (AEFs) are unintentional deaths caused by the solo sexual gratification activities.
Any person who engages in solo physical restraint should be fully aware of the risks involved.
If a person decides to engage in self-bondage in spite of the risks, they should prepare a current legal will in case of accidental death.
Most written material about AEFs focuses on noose-based autoerotic asphyxiation.
However, many deaths are actually due to complications arising from physical restraint (self-bondage).
Although dangerous, self-bondage can still be practiced safely!
Self-Bondage and Psychology
A demographic questionnaire and 7 psychometric tests were administered to 32 self-identified Bondage/Domination/SadoMasochism (BDSM) practitioners.
Although psychoanalytic literature suggests that high levels of certain types of psychopathology should be prevalent among BDSM practitioners, this sample failed to produce widespread, high levels of psychopathology on psychometric measures of depression, anxiety, obsessive compulsion, psychological sadism, psychological masochism, or PTSD
Self-Bondage and BDSM Self-bondage comes under the realm of BDSM, which includes:
* Bondage and discipline
* Domination and submission
* Sadism and Masochism
To get an idea of self-bondage, we’ll have to look into these too.
Bondage is the act of restraining someone else, such as by handcuffing them to a bed. When bound to serve, the person in handcuffs is vulnerable, and the person in charge can perform whatever sexual act he/she wishes.
Because of the fact that bondage gives the dominant one control over
the other, bondage often goes hand in hand with discipline.
Discipline is when one partner, the submissive, submits to or serves/obeys the command of the dominant partner called the dom.
For example, the dominants force the sub to perform a sexual act on him/her and he/she is expected to dutifully acquiesce to the command.
There is a transfer of power from the sub to the dom.
Sadism is the enjoyment of inflicting pain, while masochism is enjoying having pain inflicted on you.
Difference between BDSM and Self-Bondage
Self-bondage may include any form of BDSM with the person being both dominant and submissive at the same time, again inflicting pain upon self and being the one bearing it, but it is riskier than conventional bondage.
Acts such as flogging, handcuffing, spanking or the rolling of a Wartenberg pinwheel and flesh are all designed to inflict pain and are commonly used in bondage sessions.
Technically, many of the arts of BDSM focus on self-restriction.
The language of Self-Bondage
Typically, BDSM has its own language that to the uninitiated can seem overwhelming and often includes safe words. A safeword is a word that once said in the BDSM session means for the session to end as the sub feels that things have gone too far.
This can happen if a hard limit is disrespected. An act that the sub will not tolerate under any circumstances is known as a hard limit.
For example, a sub may set any act involving blood or urine as a hard limit.
Safewords are agreed upon in advance and are words that won’t come up naturally during a session.
Common examples are bananas, red coconuts, and mercy. There is no need of a safe word for self-enthusiasts, as they gain experience by self-exploring their limits.
Terms Used
While the terms sub, bottom and slave have subtle differences, they are generally used interchangeably and refer to the submissive partner in the session or relationship.
Dom, top, master, or mistress again are used interchangeably and refer to the dominant partner in the session or relationship.
In self-bondage sessions, a person can be a top, a bottom, or both of them at the same time. Or you can say the role varies from ‘top’ to ‘bottom’.
A switch is someone who switches between the roles of dom and sub and in this case, the person himself is a switch.
Although self-bondage may involve sexual acts, the administration of pain and humiliation are titillating and exhilarating in their own right and need not just involve in sexual activity, as some of these interactions span outside of the actual sexual interaction.