What in the actual heck is scissoring? All our lives, scissoring has been a joke made about lesbians and how they have sex. However, scissoring is an actual position that you can do and enjoy! There are many ways to enjoy this position and have fun. 

Scissoring is such a simple, easy way to have sexual intercourse or sexual fun with any partner, regardless of gender. It doesn’t just have to be lesbian scissor sex – though it totally can be if you want it to be! Scissoring is a super easy way to take things up a notch in the bedroom, and try out a fun way to get it on. Think of scissoring as a way to dry hump, if you and your partner have the same kind of genitals, or a fun way to try out sex with dildos, vibrators, or a penis having partner. 

Scissoring is one of the oldest moves out there.

Just because trying scissoring is new to you, doesn’t mean the move is new. The basics of scissoring are pretty, well, basic. Both of you lie on your sides, with your legs intertwined as if you are an open pair of scissors, with your genitals meeting and touching in the middle. You can then grind against your partner. This can be a unique and fun way to dry hump, if you’re into that. Scissoring can be very fun, and take the pressure off of looking at each other. This avoids the awkward faces that you may be self conscious of.

Scissoring doesn’t have to be done while lying down. 

 You can lie down, while your partner grinds against you, or vice versa. You don’t have to both be moving. You can also try this with one of you on your back and one of you kneeling. This can be great for deep penis or dildo/strap on/vibrator penetration. If you enjoy giving or receiving deep penetration, definitely try this move out. This can be very pleasurable and enjoyable for both parties. 

One of the great things about scissoring is that it makes you take things slowly and enjoy each other more. You can’t just go up and down and aggressively have sex. Well, you probably can, but it is a lot harder. Taking some time and not rushing is the beauty of scissoring. Being forced to slow down and enjoy each other to the fullest potential is such an incredible and thrilling sensation, and part of what makes scissoring so unique and fun for both parties.

Scissoring works different muscles and takes technique to master!

This position and angle will make you engage different muscles, and really challenge you to find new ways to get off. If you want to spice things up, this lesser utilized sex move is just for you. Scissor sex or scissor foreplay can really excite you in ways you haven’t been excited before. Sex is all about pelasure and experimenting with new ways to find pleasure, so scissoring is the perfect way to do that! Don’t give up if you don’t love scissoring the first time. With the many variations and the muscles you work, it will take time and practice to find just the right way to enjoy it. Or you may have beginners luck and enjoy it immediately. It truly depends on the person.

Stretching will do you some good. 

Since we mentioned this works different muscles than you probably do on a regular basis, it goes without saying that stretching can be super beneficial to keep you from feeling way too sore the next day.  Warm those glutes up, and that will help prevent cramps and soreness! Even though warming up may not sound super sexy, remember that neither is getting a cramp in the middle of sex. Stretch your glutes and your hamstrings. Honestly, warming up and stretching before any vigorous activity can be very beneficial, so don’t discount the benefits you may experience. It’s always a good idea to stretch because not everyone is as limber or flexible as they may need to be for this unique sex move. 

Scissoring is great foreplay.

If you don’t want any kind of penetration, that is totally okay! You can use scissoring as a way to have foreplay or get off without penetration. It can offer fabulous clitoral stimulation, and penile stimulation if your partner has a penis. Not everyone goes in to scissoring with the idea of having sex. It is such a useful and versatile position to incorporate in to many facets of your sex life. Whether you only want to have it in your foreplay rotation, or you want to try it as a sex position, it is so worth a try.

Scissoring feels different – for every one – almost every time. 

Because scissoring is such a versatile move, it doesn’t always have to feel the same. Communicate what you like, what’s pleasuring you, and what doesn’t! Scissoring can be changed up frequently and always leave you satisfied if it is a move you enjoy. Yes, not every variation will be your cup of tea, but not every sex move will be your favorite either. Try holding each other by the thighs, grinding back and forth, or just having one partner grind on the other.

Definitely use lubricant. 

Because there is a lot of friction, we always recommend a good lubricant. Go for water based if you are using condoms or sex toys, silicone based if you aren’t. Avoiding chafing and irritation is very important. Because grinding is often the motion used when having scissor sex, chafing is a real possibility, so having it on hand, even if you don’t end up using it, is super helpful. 

Scissoring is just like any sex position, and can be changed up many different ways and enjoyed in many ways. There are so many variations and ways to enjoy and have fun. Don’t let it be defined by what you think it is and what society says it is.