At different points in a couples relationship, you may feel less invested in sex, especially in a long term relationship! It’s normal, but it can still be stressful. There are so many ways to navigate this sensitive time in your relationship. Do you feel like you’ve tried everything? It’s time to spice it up with some new ideas in the bedroom. It can be intimidating to talk about new sex ideas in the bedroom with your partner, especially if you have different mindsets and drives. Think of bedroom time as a fun game together, and get creative! It can take practice, but it’s time for you and your partner to try new things. It may not be perfect the first time, but that’s ok. Whether you try things you do or don’t like, you won’t know until you put the effort in. Just like trying new cuisine, it’s hit or miss. The Vibes team has put together a few easy tips to help you!
Are you nervous about how your partner may react? When you talk to your other half, be sure to do it in a comfortable setting, without others around. You want to be able to not worry about outside distractions - put your phone on silent and don’t rush the conversation.
Starting a Conversation
Once you’ve decided on new sex ideas, find the right time to talk. Remember that some people feel insecure when their partner suggests something new. Make sure you make your partner feel safe and comfortable and remind them how much you love sex with them! Then bring up that you’re feeling adventurous and want their thoughts on some new ideas and things to do in bed.
You can change it up just by walking in to your kitchen! Have you ever had sex on the kitchen counter? What about a living room couch or chair? You can also take a mini vacation - new places can be very exciting.
Try expanding your moves by leaving behind just doggy style and missionary. You don’t have to get difficult; standing up or moving leg positions can really enhance your already amazing sex life. Lube or oils can make sex feel totally new as well!
Introducing Sex Toys
There are tons of reasons to bring sex toys in to the bedroom. Many women depend on them to orgasm, and others use them for more pleasure during sex. Before you buy a sex toy, know the different types and what your partner and you may enjoy! Keep in mind that a safe and reliable sex toy will most likely cost more than $45. Silicone and glass are both safe for your body and easy to clean. Other than vibrators and dildos, there are lots of other options like games, handcuffs, blindfolds, and even sexy lingerie to add.
Live your Fantasy!
Fantasies are totally normal and healthy. Play with your partner - ask their wildest fantasy and see how you can make it come true. Sharing a fantasy can surprise and excite anyone. It’s easy to create these, and adventurous to add in the bedroom. They’re even better when shared. Remember that just sharing fantasies can excite your life- you don’t necessarily have to act them out. There are so many ideas to envision: are you secretly in to domination? Outfits that set a scene? Sex means more than one thing to many, so being willing to explore new ideas can be sexy in itself. Make sure communication stay key in this time to keep your partner comfortable.
Adding porn in during sex can be very pleasing to both men and women. Does your partner fantasize about a threesome? If you’re not comfortable with acting on one, adding one on the television while you’re intimate can help fulfill that fantasy. Remember that enjoying porn with your partner doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate your partner. It’s always thrilling to see others and even learn new positions from videos. Porn can be added stimulation to an already heightened time.
Spicing up the bedroom can help keep your relationship feeling fresh and new, even after years of being together. Porn, sex toys, and fantasies are just a few ideas to make your bedroom life go from amazing to perfect! Looking to add lubes or sex toys to your arsenal? Check out our site for the highest quality and most pleasurable things available.
Happy Fucking! The Vibes Team