Updated: Jul 22
We know the vaginal orgasm isn’t easy for everyone, but if you have the gift of attaining one, there’s a step up - the blended orgasm. Toys, patience, and a lot of practice lead to this incredible sensation. Did you know that it’s possible to achieve multiple orgasms at the same time?
What exactly is a blended orgasm?
Blended orgasms are a clitoral and vaginal orgasm that happen at the same time. It’s essentially two different orgasms at once, which lead to an intense, full body pleasure experience.
The first step to experiencing a blended orgasm is to learn how to simultaneously stimulate the clitoris and vagina at the same time. This may sound difficult, but with the help of your fingers or toys, it’s incredibly easy.
First, you need to make sure you know how vaginal and clitoral orgasms work.
Vaginal orgasms typically involve hitting the G-spot, which is on the inner wall of the vagina. Stimulating the G-spot pressure can lead to orgasm. The G-spot is sensitive because it’s part of the clitoris: the clitoral root is located right behind the vaginal wall. When you stimulate the G-spot, you can also stimulate part of the clitoris.
To achieve a clitoral orgasm, pressure and repetitive motion are usually applied to a wet clitoris. You can use lube or your natural lubrication to achieve this wetness. The clitoris is a nerve-filled organ located at the top of the vulva that extends down inside the labia. Using a repetitive up and down or circular motion to achieve orgasm with fingers, a toy, or tongue, depending on what your partner prefers is one of the best ways to achieve this.
So what does it feel like?
A blended orgasm can be more intense than just vaginal or clitoral orgasms alone.
Since both the vagina and clitoris are being stimulated, a blended orgasm can trigger full body involuntary movements that mimic convulsion, to squirting in some cases.
On their own, each form of orgasm can be spectacular!
Clitoral orgasms are usually felt on the surface of the body, like a tingly feeling along your skin.
Vaginal orgasms are deeper in the body and can be felt by the person penetrating the vagina, because the vaginal walls pulse.
No orgasm is the same. They vary from person to person. How your body lets go can range from a soft relaxing feeling to a powerful and intense release. When it comes to orgasms, it’s best not to have sex with an end goal in mind, as you may subconsciously put pressure on yourself. This makes it harder to get in the swing of things
If you feel comfortable with trying to achieve this, read on for some tips.
Achieving a blended orgasm
Even if you know how to get yourself off both ways, a blended orgasm is going to take practice and time for most. Key tips are to relax and go in with the mindset of achieving pleasure!
Don’t feel like you need to start by stimulating both the G-spot and clitoris at the same time, either. If one part takes longer to reach orgasm usually, start there first. For first-timers, time is also your friend.
To achieve a blended orgasm solo, start vaginally by finding the G-spot:
Using your fingers or a sex toy, lift upward toward your belly button as if you are curling your fingers.
Repeat the motion, and keep focusing your attention on this area.
With your other hand, start to work the clitoris. If you need to add lube, go for it! Try circular motions, back and forth, and even using a vibrator to stimulate more intensely.
With a partner
If you have a significant other, ask them to try that finger motion toward your belly button before any type of penetration begins. Starting with the G Spot seems to be a key way to achieve this form of orgasm.
Your partner can also use their mouth and tongue to stimulate the clitoris. Using the tip of their tongue to lick, starting slow and increasing speed and pressure while using motions like up and down or circular.
Sex positions to achieve a blended orgam:
cowgirl - this allows easy clitoral access
doggy -this will allow for easier clitoral stimulation as well
Remember that every body is different. If these sex positions don’t work, there are always others to try that may help you to hit the right spots.
Orgasms feel phenomenal no matter what style they are, so being able to achieve this multi- orgasmic sensation will rock your world!