Well, there are hundreds of them, but we have just a few main categories that we’re going to explore today. Looking for a comprehensive list of kinks? Read on!
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Voyeurism is the act of receiving excitement sexually from watching or being watched while engaging in sexual acts. Typically, people enjoy this by watching others, but some enjoy just hearing or being told about others experiences sexually! If you are into voyeurism, sex parties may be the perfect cup of tea for you. You can choose to engage, or just watch others getting it on.
Breath play refers to the BDSM practice of having your breathing restricted during sexual activity. This can sometimes be dangerous, so be sure to communicate your levels of comfort to the person who is in control. Alternatively, try to hold your breath on your own. This puts you in control of how and when you breathe. Breath play is considered risky in the list of kinks.
BDSM is an acronym for many different parts of kink and fetish in the community. BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, and Sadism/Masochism. BDSM involves a power exchange, where there is a dominant partner and a submissive partner. Submissives allow the dominant to take control during sex or scenes and submits to them. This should always be consensual.
Scene or scene play
A scene is what we call the time period that kink play is going on. You may call a casual night of sex a hook up, but many within the community refer to this as a scene. This is planned time with their sexual partners, where they engage in kinks.
Dominant and submissive
A dominant partner is someone who enjoys dominating their partner through various activities. Some of these acts are physical, like bondage and choking, and others are mental, like degradation. The submissive partner typically enjoys the act of being dominated, and agrees to the kinks, whether they are bondage, humiliation, or etc.
A switch is someone who plays a dominant or submissive role but can switch to playing the other role. This can be an enjoyable power exchange for both partners!
Sadism and masochism
Sadists are kink enjoyers who derive pleasure out of causing some amount of pain or humiliation on their partner. This can be physical or mental. Remember that this is consensual, and that the partners enjoy this together! The submissive typically has pre-established levels and a safe word for if it goes too far. Masochists are the people who enjoy receiving this pain or humiliation. It’s similar to Dom/Sub, but not all dom/sub relationships are sadist/masochistic.
We’ve all heard the term golden showers, which is piss play that involves urine. However, this is just one part of this kink! Piss play can also refer to making someone hold in their pee, peeing on a body part, or wetting their pants. We urge you to be careful regarding holding your pee, as you can easily get a UTI from this kink.
Edging / Edge Play
Edge play is something considered a bit more dangerous in the list of kinks but is a very broad term all around. Edge play can involve blood, knife play, intense psychological play, and even intense bondage. Usually, more experienced kink lovers will experiment with these, as it can be very dangerous and go too far. It is imperative to establish boundaries and know where you can and cannot go within the realm of kink.
Erotic humiliation, like most kinks on this list, has a broad spectrum. It can be as simple as calling your partner a slut, to watching your partner have sex with someone else in front of them. Like all kinks, boundaries are a key to successful humiliation. Aftercare is also a large component, to help a submissive reset and come down from the high of the scene.
Cuckolding is part of erotic humiliation. This is typically a man or male submissive who gears off on watching their partner have sex with someone else. The cuck may watch from the corner of the room, and sometimes they may stay home. It truly depends. Your typical cuck is a more effeminate man, while the partner is having sex with a more dominant, larger male.
Cock and ball torture
Cock and ball torture usually involve a dominatrix who inflicts pain on a male submissives genitals. Again, this is consensual! She may step on his testicles, slap his balls or penis, or make him wear a chastity belt that is uncomfortable. These involve a more experienced female dominatrix or male dominant. Again, these are painful activities that are wanted and consensual from the submissive.
Men with feet fetishes may want to worship a woman’s feet. Often times they want to kiss, massage, give a pedicure, and maybe put them in sexy stockings. Some men love to have feet in their face, whether they smell bad or look bad. This fetish is much more common than you may think. It is typically a male fetish but can also be a female kink.
Age play is where two adults have a scene where they play ages that they aren’t. This may mean daddy dom and baby girl relationships. For some, they may talk in a cutesy voice. For others, they may wear a diaper. However, daddy is used often in sex and does not mean that someone is into age play. Age play also does not mean that these adults are pedophiles. Age play is the one of the most common fetishes in the list of kinks.
Orgasm control or edging.
Orgasm control is where a submissive partner allows the dominant to control when they get to orgasm or finish. This can mean a male wearing a chastity device, or a female being restrained. Typically, the submissive partner is brought so close to orgasm, and then all stimulation is stopped. Then they may start again, over and over. This is a kink that many who are not in the BDSM community also enjoy!
Now that you know about these kinks, are there any different types of kinks that you’d like to try? Let us know below if we should add anything to our comprehensive list of kinks!