Ask any guy what’s on their sex bucket list, and a threesome is probably the first. You might be up for a threesome, but the unknown scares you. If you’ve decided that a threesome is right for you, if you have found a threesome partner, and if it’s about time to rip the clothes off and get going, follow this article as we will give you our best tips on how to start a threesome!

How to start a threesome that will satisfy our sexual desires? First, I have to say that real life is often different from our fantasies. By empiricism, I can tell you that this statement applies to all areas of life- especially in sex. 

If you stole my computer, you adorable reader, you could navigate my history as you please, which I’m still lazy to erase. In it, you would surely find the search for Threesome. Because threesomes, whether they are made up of two guys and a girl, two girls and a guy, three guys, three girls, and other options… are very exciting and thrilling.

And you, my beautiful reader, would you like to experience this thrill? Here is everything you should know on how to start a threesome.

How to start a threesome when you’re in a relationship:

We often think of a threesome when we are in a relationship. If this is your case, then never forget that in a threesome, there are “three”, not “two and one”. In order for everything to go as smoothly as possible, the essential ingredient (and be sure to implement this right off the bat!) is kindness.

The third person invited should not be treated as a spice supplement in your sex life, but as a whole person, with their own desires, just like you and your partner, and entitled to the same respect. For this moment, try not to see yourself as a couple necessarily, but as a person sharing an intimate relationship with two other equal people.

How to initiate a threesome? 

A small glass of wine should help ease the mood. No need to rush headlong; it is better to take the time to set up a little atmosphere beforehand so that it doesn’t get too weird. 

In the same way, as with a classic flirtation, take a seat over a drink and have a nice chat while waiting for the atmosphere to lend itself to it. If everyone goes with the flow, try the massage technique, it’s perfect for getting to know each other’s bodies.

How to start a threesome with mixed genders? 

For example, If you are a straight woman and consider a relationship with two men, things might not be super smooth if both are fully straight. I know you like to imagine that the two focus on you, sure, but a threesome is much more exciting and fluid if everyone wants to kiss everyone else. The same goes for you if the idea is to do it with a man and another woman, but don’t force yourself into anything.

Be as generous as possible. 

While you might be hoping that both of them will give you 100% of their attention, the truth is, they’re there to please themselves as much as they are there to please you. You might end up feeling ignored – and you should do your best to get over it. 

The best way to approach this situation is to put your feelings aside for a while and try to be as generous as possible with your hands and mouth. 

The pleasure in one-on-one sex is not as in a threesome; it’s more of a cycle that goes from person to person. Therefore, be patient, focus on turning them on, and the attention will come back to you. Whatever fun you get in a threesome is a treat, so instead of expecting something special (like two women falling on you at the same time), enjoy whatever comes your way.

More tips on how to begin a threesome

• How to start a threesome that will work? A nice atmosphere will create a bond between you and your partners one night, which will give you all confidence. You can, for example, provide a light aperitif, some wine, and soft drinks. Even champagne for a more festive and original side! However, avoid offering a real dinner, or dishes that are too heavy: it is not in the midst of difficult digestion that you are going to make sparks in bed, as you can imagine! This is also why you should not abuse alcohol, even if it helps you de-stress when the time comes.
• At some point you’re going to get to the heart of the matter, and you’re going to need some room. Yes, the three of you will take a lot more places than the two! 

So this is how to start a threesome. You should make everyone feel comfortable in their sex party and plan a place ahead of time. It could be your bed, of course, if it’s big enough, or a mattress on the floor. Consider putting on clean sheets. You can also provide dim lighting, scented candles, or even some sexy background music. Anything that creates an atmosphere conducive to a fiery sex party is ideal!

• Think about hygiene and the protection of everyone! We can’t say it enough on this blog, but protection should be your top priority. Condoms are, therefore, mandatory outside of sex with your official partner. You will need to change it with each new penetration. So you can imagine that the three of you, when you’re having fun constantly swapping each other, you’re going to need a lot of condoms! 

Consider making an extensive stock! Arrange them in small, discreet boxes in several places near you, so everyone feels free to grab one when they need it. It is also appreciable to plan a shower, either before or after your lovemaking. Consider providing your one-night guest with a clean towel, in a tidy bathroom, and with water for 3 people!

How to Kick it Off

That’s it, you have planned everything, organized everything.

The three of you had a drink, calmly discussed everything and nothing, then gradually, the discussion turned to sex. This is surely the most delicate moment of the evening: you have everything planned, everyone knows why they are there, but you have to get past the simple dinner with friends to turn on the sex side! 

To prevent everyone from looking at each other in awkward silence, someone will have to take matters into their own hands. And why not you?

To kick off the night, for example, you can compliment your partner on their outfit, taking the opportunity to put your hand on him or her. You can also invent a sexy little game, like truth or dare. It’s great for breaking the ice. And then, when the sex game is on, you have to be able to let go to really enjoy it. You are finally living your fantasy, so why not live it to the fullest! Do not think about anything, and live the present moment in the middle of these two beautiful bodies.

I hope we answered all your questions on How to Start a Threesome. My last piece of advice you should put in mind that having sex with one person can already be emotionally intense; therefore, if there are three of you, be extra careful. For couples: text the person you had a threesome with the next day, just like you (hopefully) would with anyone else. Don’t necessarily expect this to happen again, but pay attention to his/her feelings.

If you’re in a relationship, it’s normal to find it a little strange watching your other half have sex with someone else, no matter how good the situation is. Talk about it the next day, just the two of you. Say what you liked and what you didn’t like, and if you would prefer it to remain a unique experience or if you would do it again. Aftercare is vital, so never let this aspect go ignored just because the rush of climax has faded.