Like most things in life, female masturbation has become one of those things we do just to cross it off our ever-growing to-do lists and get on with our day. And because of this, the quality of our solo sessions has suffered. Why is it that we would plan a whole evening of sexy time with a partner but not with ourselves?

Ladies, are we okay with not giving it all in the rest of our lives and only giving our vulvas a quick and unsatisfying fumble? Your answer should be a massive NO. It’s time that you put some time aside to pleasure yourself properly. No average grade is available; we expect only above average or excellent. We are going to make your masturbation better. And how do you make masturbation feel better? We’re about to tell you …

Think outside the box

When you think of masturbation, what do you think of? In most cases, the idea of female masturbation conjures up images of a woman lying on her back– usually on her bed–touching herself with her fingers. But what if I said that lying on your bed is not the only position you can use to masturbate? What if I said that there are lots of different gadgets available to pleasure yourself with other than your fingers? What if I said you don’t have to masturbate alone?

Masturbation is like sex; it comes in many forms, and there is no end to the list of places, positions, and kinks you can try. Yes, I said kinks. So to make masturbation feel better, your first task is to think outside the box. What kinks do you like to explore with a partner? Bring those into your solo sessions, as sex toys help you explore sexual kinks. Ever wanted to have sex on the kitchen floor? You can do that alone, you know …

Explore your senses

If you don’t know where to start with making your masturbation a bit more exciting, try this: Block one of your senses. Blindfold yourself while you masturbate. Wear noise-canceling headphones while you get busy to muffle out any external noise. 

If you have a remote-control vibrator (our Athena Remote Control Dildo & Pulsating Vibrator is a good one for this), loosely tie your hands up above your head with skin-safe material (think silky ribbon or even the belt of your dressing gown), holding the remote or phone in one of your hands so you can control the vibrator, and give in to the pleasurable vibes of your sex toy while enjoying some light bondage. 

Alternatively, you can amplify one of your senses, like listening to music while masturbating for hearing, letting a piece of chocolate melt in your mouth for taste, or wearing your favorite sexy perfume to satisfy your olfactory sense. By taking away from your senses or adding to them, you can really take your masturbation session to the next level.

Take it outside

We have remote-control vibrators for a reason. Pleasure doesn’t have to be restricted to the bedroom. Put on your vibrator under your clothes and go about your day with a bit more of a pep in your step. This kind of play is great for when you have to run errands or go on a long journey on public transport–refrain from using a vibrator at the same time as driving your car for obvious reasons. 

Masturbating while you’re outside will give you a thrill that you just can’t get from staying home; knowing that you are pleasuring yourself and nobody around you knows is just so self-indulgent, and we all need a bit of that these days, right? We wouldn’t recommend doing this at a family wedding, or somewhere you’ll have lots of interaction with people you know. Unless that’s your kink of course …

Try the back door

The butt hole has long split us women into two groups: those of us who love butt sex and those of us who won’t let anyone or anything go near that part of our anatomy. If you haven’t ever experimented with anal play, maybe now is your time to experiment? 

It can be as easy as slipping a lubed finger into your anus while pleasuring your clit and vagina. Or you could use a pretty gem-stoned anal plug while masturbating if you want to feel like a princess. If you want to be more daring, you could treat yourself to a sex toy that stimulates your anus as well as your other areas. Our Cybele Triple Stimulation Vibrator is a great option for triple- yes triple- stimulation. This vibrator stimulates your anus, vagina, and clit with nine amazing vibration frequencies. You are welcome, girl!

Masturbate in front of your partner

For many of us, female masturbation is a private activity. But do you know who would absolutely love to watch you pleasure yourself? Whoever you’re having sex with! Partner or just a casual fling, they will love to watch you put on a show, trust us. 

You and your partner can use mutual masturbation as a means of foreplay; it’s basically live porn, after all. You get to turn yourself on the way you like, and your partner gets horny watching you. What’s not to love? 

You can also add masturbation in at the end of your sexy time; if your partner has a penis or is using a strap-on, get into the missionary position, and get them to kneel up to give you space, stretch your legs out either side of them, and then go to town on your clit with your finger or favorite buzzy friend with their penis/strap-on still inside you. If you are not one of the lucky 18% of women who can orgasm by penetration alone, then your clit will probably be desperate for one-on-one attention after your sexy time. Your partner gets to take a breather and watch a show while you get that well-deserved orgasm. Amazing!

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, there’s no reason why you can’t still put on a show. Get them on video chat and prop up your phone in a position that gives them a good view of you. Then go to town. You can even get app-controlled vibrators, so your partner can control your vibrator from the other side of the world and be involved in your solo play. Crazy but oh so good!

Masturbate in different positions

Okay, after much experimentation, your favorite place to get frisky with yourself is still the bedroom. But even in the bedroom, you can spice it up.

Instead of lying on your back, get on all fours. Lie on your stomach, your side, lie with your legs pointing towards your pillows, and rest your legs on the wall behind the headboard … there are so many different positions to masturbate in; just experiment, and you might just be surprised. 

One last suggestion, and it’s not really a position, but it is a game-changer! Use your other hand. You know how it feels when someone is touching you down there, but it’s not quite how you do it? Well, you can replicate this by using your other hand. Although it can feel awkward, it gives your vulva and vagina a chance to orgasm in a different way from how you normally do. And change is always good! Even in solo sex, you gotta keep things fresh.

As well as the above-mentioned tips about female masturbation, don’t forget about other things you can do to add to the experience. If you’re taking your sex toy outside, wear an outfit you feel sexy in. If you’re masturbating at home, spend some time reading a sexy novel or watching some ethical porn. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, send them some sexy messages throughout the day and, when you get home, tell them that you’ll be out of contact for a while because you’re going to be touching yourself for the rest of the night. That will add some spice to your LDR, for sure!

So what are you waiting for, ladies? Go forth and refresh thy solo sex life.