Flirting – it can be difficult, confusing, and even frustrating. If you’re here to find out how to flirt with girls, don’t worry, we’ve got it all broken down to the basics for you! At V for Vibes, we are all about those good vibes you can give off, so we’ve put together a little manual for you to use when you’re confused about the next step forward while flirting with women.
If you’re unsure about whether they’re into you or not, try some of these and watch for their responses carefully – looking at those social cues can often be a signal for you to proceed or not, depending upon the situation.
Just remember that it’s a delicate dance that two people do when you and the person you’re interested in reciprocate each other’s energies, so keep those vibes flowing back and forth, and you should be good! In addition to the different ways to flirt, here are a few additional tips and tricks you can use if flirting with women is not something you have done before, or if you really need to bring your flirting game, or even just add a little bit of spice to your life.
Make eye contact
Have you ever heard the saying, “the eyes are the windows to the soul?”
Well, we’re not kidding when we say that here – eye contact can really have a significant impact on the way you are perceived in a conversation. Not only does eye contact make the conversation more intimate, but it also shows the person you are talking to that you’re interested in hearing their responses to what you’re saying, a keystone element to body language.
A general rule of thumb is to make eye contact ever so frequently that the person you’re talking to can notice. Think of it like a 50 and 70 rule – if you’re talking, look at them nearly half the time you talk to them, and if you’re listening, you should maintain eye contact for roughly seventy percent of the conversation. It’s a great way of showing the person you’re paying attention to and can make them feel important in your life – which is a win-win if you ask us. It can also be a fun way to catch the person’s attention, especially when they’re caught off guard – a good chance of them blushing in response is a sure-shot way of knowing it works!
Be a good listener.
Paying attention to the person you’re talking to is the golden key to flirting successfully. Not only do you show the person you’re talking to that you’re interested in them, but you also value their thoughts and opinions equally.
Nothing says a good potential match to us than being listened to, and in a way, told that we’re cared for. A good listener pays attention to details, picks up on what they’re being told, and responds appropriately. Listen to understand, not to reply, and try to give her more space in the conversation.
As women, we tend to be silenced throughout our days more often than men are, and to be given the space to be heard out fully is one of the greatest indicators of a potential partner. Nothing sets the mood than a sensitive and kind personality and a person who is willing to listen to you. It signals respect and that you value the person for who they are – a great tip for upping your flirting game with women.
This can also help you get to know them better and recall details they’ve shared to make the conversation more intimate and personal. Listening to them talk about themselves can give you cues to make slight moves like being witty and following what they’ve said up with a question, so you should really take the time to master how to be a better listener.
Pick up on what she likes.
Being a good listener will get you so many brownie points, to begin with, but it comes with a few bonuses, too! It allows you to find out things she will mention about herself and things she likes or dislikes. That’s usually a great place to start when it comes to flirting – pick up on what she says she likes and try to follow through on those. It can also give you the perfect cues to show her you’re interested. If she says she likes ice cream, you could even suggest going out to really find out if she’s into you, too!
Not only will being a good listener show her that you do care and are genuinely interested in what she has to say, but it will also give you time to think about your responses. Try to be your most authentic self when you’re talking to this person, and let the words come to you naturally. Forcing words or thoughts might come off as a bit of an act, so leave that in the “don’ts” pile.
Here is the perfect chance to get those vibes right by showing her you two have things in common and can bond over those. This will give you the opportunity to find some common interests, too, so that you and her can talk about similar things and really get to know each other well. Sharing interests will automatically make the conversation more intimate and will allow you to share your thoughts and ideas, too, giving her an insight into your personality.
Tell her you’re thinking of her.
A great way to brighten someone’s day is to tell them you’re thinking of them. Not only is it kind and warm to be reminded of how much someone appreciates you, but it also lets the person know that you’re interested and want to pursue this further. It can be very intimate and sexy, too, to be told you’re being thought off. It’s the perfect mix of sweet and spicy – depending upon their response, you can choose to steer the conversation in whichever direction you desire. It will also perhaps set up the perfect opportunity to ask them if you can see them and will really do wonders on the flirting front.
Another great way to say you’re thinking of someone is to try to do things they like. This is where those details you picked upon in conversations with her come in handy. If you’re texting her from work and she tells you she’s had a long day, offer her something she says she likes like coffee or dessert! That’ll really get those flirting vibes right.
When you’re ready, ask her to go on a date with you!
Now that you have spent enough time talking and getting to know each other, you should be in the stage where the tension is building up, and you can’t wait to see each other! When you feel like the time is right and that you’re ready, ask her to go on a date with you.
Bonus points if you can incorporate things she likes to do while you’re on the date – like a cute museum tour or a dinner at a restaurant she likes. You’re sure to make it clear that you’re interested at this point and that you’re ready to hear their response.
It can also be a feeling of relief for a lot of people – with the tension building up and the anticipation kicking in, ride the flirting train straight into your first date with her!