If the last article on swingers hasn’t put you off and you’re ready to take your sexual endeavors to the next level, you’ve come to the right place. Just like every swinging relationship varies, finding swingers isn’t one-size-fits-all. Luckily, there are enough options for everyone, even if you aren’t sure if this lifestyle is for you. 

With many varying intricacies and ways to bring your swinging fantasies to life, we’ve decided to put some information together to help you along this journey of sexual fulfillment within the swinger lifestyle. So here’s how to find swingers:

1. Swingers clubs

Visiting a swingers club is the best way to immerse yourself in the lifestyle. While these clubs are all about fun, you don’t necessarily have to do anything sexual. You can just mingle with like-minded people and learn about their experiences and the swinging itself. And if you’re ready to fully enter the swingers’ world and meet a couple you can connect with, nothing is stopping you from going all the way. Unfortunately, finding the right club isn’t as simple as getting a name off google and dropping by at the weekend. First of all, you have to make sure the venue has good safety measures in place. For example, every decent swingers establishment requires you to show a copy of your ID. You don’t want to find yourself in the same room with some shady individuals, so make sure you choose wisely – a lower entry price isn’t worth it. Additionally, you’ll have to adhere to the rules that ensure everyone treats each other with respect at every reputable venue. That includes no filming, no taking photos, and that consent is the key. You can also tell a lot about the quality of the club by checking out their entry rules. Decent clubs have a members-only policy, which means you have to pay extra, but your experience won’t be ruined by people who see swinging as synonymous with consent. Some clubs require you to submit a photo of yourself as a part of an application process. The good news is, you’re more likely to be accepted if you’re a couple. If you’re a single woman, you’re almost guaranteed to be welcomed with open arms. Bear in mind that these safety measures mean a club will keep your personal data on file. If you’re not comfortable with that, don’t worry. There are many other ways to meet swingers.  

2. Swinger sites 

If you’re wondering how to meet swingers, swingers sites should be another obvious choice. For people who are from a country where sex and non-monogamy are taboo, this might be the only option. In most countries, swinger sites aren’t that popular and often ask you for monthly payments; however, it’s worth paying a little extra if you know what you want to get out of the swinger lifestyle. You’ll be able to filter fake swingers out and connect with people who already have a lot of swinging experiences. Additionally, membership allows you to stay up to date with local swinging events where you can expand your network. Just make sure that these sites follow all the necessary guidelines before you join and always arrange a meet-and-greet before entering any arrangements. 

3. Swingers cruises

 Yes, these are a thing. Swinging is a full-blown lifestyle after all, and if there’s anything better than sexual experimentation, it’s sexual experimentation abroad, preferably on the beach, wearing a bikini and with a cocktail in hand. If you’re well-familiar with swinging and want to try something new, a swinging cruise might be just what you need. The price of these cruises will usually put off people who mistake swinging for an easy way to get sex and leave you with experienced couples searching for new connections. If you can afford it, there’s no reason you shouldn’t give it a go. Just make sure you read the reviews beforehand. 

4. Dating apps

Dating apps are ideal if you’re hoping to experiment and wondering how to find swingers. You’ll have the most luck on apps like Tinder if you’re a single swinger searching for a couple to take you under their wings. A swinging couple probably won’t advertise they’re looking for a third, but if they match with you, you’ll quickly get a sense of what their expectations are. If you want to enter the lifestyle with your partner, finding a playmate might be a little trickier, but all you have to do is put ‘looking for something casual’ in the description plus decent photos and keep your fingers crossed. Make sure you see the potential swingers in person and discuss the dos and don’ts before you agree to do anything sexual. Meeting swingers off dating apps might not come with as many steps as when meeting them at the swingers club, but the same rules still apply, and your safety comes first. 

5. Dating sites for fetish & kink enthusiasts 

Dating sites might be a little old-fashioned, but they work just as well as dating apps. The key here is to find a platform dedicated to kinksters and fetishists, where you’re more likely to find open-minded people and potential swinging partners. One of the most significant advantages is that a lot of sites allow you to list your sexual preferences on the top of your profile which saves a lot of awkwardness and makes it easier to find the perfect match. If you’re a beginner, this can help you feel a little less overwhelmed as you’re more likely to be approached by people with similar interests rather than time-wasters. You can also browse the forum and learn more about swinging before you dive right into it. This is a great way to test the waters before jumping in fully. 

6. Social media

If you already have some experience and other ways to find swingers that aren’t up to your taste, you can try your luck on social media. Don’t worry; I’m not talking about announcing you’re a swinger on Facebook but about taking advantage of good old hashtags. Head to Twitter and Instagram, and get creative. Who knows, you might stumble across interesting events in your area or directly connect with like-minded couples. And if you know where to look, you might even learn about the launching of a new swingers club and get a discounted entry. 

7. Themed events

 If you’re on the younger side and wondering how to find swingers, you might fit in better at themed events than at a regular swingers club. I hate to be stereotypical, but swinging is often an activity undertaken by middle-aged couples in an attempt to fix a stale marriage. This might work for you (no judgment here), but if you’re a newbie, it’s worth getting to know the lifestyle from a slightly different angle. Themed events include kink and fetish nights where you get to meet sexually open-minded people, and yes, a lot of them are swingers. These events are a great opportunity to learn more about different sexual preferences and lifestyles and get to wear an amazing outfit you were never confident enough to wear before. There’s no better way to explore your sexuality than socializing half-naked surrounded by a welcoming community. 

I hope this guide gave you an idea of how to find swingers to experiment with. If you’re serious about committing to the lifestyle, you can try combining a few of these options. And remember, safety first. Happy swinging!