Alright, ladies, who here wants to make the men go crazy? Not that we already don’t, but I mean, like really crazy- bump into a light post as they’re walking, ogle eyes wide and staring kind of crazy. Texting you first in the morning and last at night kind of crazy. Handing over the credit card to go on a shopping spree kind of crazy… Oops, I might have gotten carried away daydreaming a bit there.
Most of us would be lying if we said that we didn’t want to know how to be irresistible to men. After all, who doesn’t love a bit of that opposite-sex attention? Okay, maybe more than just a bit… I’ll take the lot!
It makes us feel wanted, appreciated and adored, and you know what? That feels dang good inside. Not that we need men as reassurance for anything (or do we actually need them at all?), but when our sexuality aligns with attraction to the other gender, it’s kind of nice when they flock around you, and who doesn’t love a free drink?
Oh boy, now I’m rambling. Let’s get right into it. How to be irresistible to men? Give your lovely little vibrator a break, and keep on reading’ for a couple of tips that I’d like to think I’ve picked up along the way.
Walk the Dang Walk
Walk the dang walk, talk the dang talk! I mean, girl, seriously- you are freaking gorgeous. Your skin, your curves, your freckles, your eyes; you really do got it going on, and you should flaunt it like you own it because, um… you do!
Blah blah blah, confidence this confidence that. It’s hard as hell to be confident sometimes, I get it, and I struggle with it too. But confidence really is a key in how to be irresistible to men, and it makes a massive difference in their overall allure and perception of you. The instant you start acting, speaking, and asserting yourself with the confidence you rightfully deserve to show off is the instant they want to be the center of your attention.
It’s like, “Woah, what the hell can I do to make this woman notice me?!”, and bang, you’ve become the presence in the room that each and every male will, as biology calls for, try to captivate and charm to the same extent that you have already done to them! They’ll want to keep up with your confidence, or at least they’ll sure as heck try, and being intrinsically happy and proud about yourself, your body, and your personality will have you become irresistible to him just about as quick as he lasts in bed.
A Little Work Never Hurts
I know, when you’re thinking about how to be irresistible to him, you imagine sitting at a bar all mysterious and cute and, like your favorite Netflix show, next thing you know, twenty guys have tried their best to court your attention. For sure, It might work that way sometimes, but honestly, let’s change it up.
Instead of allowing fate to naturally unfold while you wait for the next gentleman to put his charm on, try switching things up and putting in a little bit of the work yourself. Hear me out if you choose to initiate some of the flirting, then you’re going to rock his world.
Back to the whole confidence thing, when you take the helm of the flirting and the conversation, he’s going to be taken aback, and girl, now you own the situation. That’s right- keep up if you can, you imbecile man!
Okay, I swear, I’m done being mean.
But seriously, men are often used to thinking that they need to be the star of the flirting show, and when the tables are turned, they become wide-eyed and curious as heck. Bringing it right back to confidence, it shows them that you know what you want, that you’re confident enough to get it, and that you are unafraid to show it. Plus, it makes them feel good about themselves, considering they have what it takes to gain your attention, and that will make them more inclined to fearlessly go crazy over you.
This alone, right here, will set you apart from everyone else, so if you’re not a love guru, try taking a little time to learn how to flirt, toss around a handful of cute compliments while you do so, and make him realize that he should be the one honored and thankful to receive your attention, not the other way around.
Positivity is Sexy
And negativity is just sooo bland!
Seriously, positivity is hot as hell, and being the brightest, most positive person in the room is literally a one-stop-shop at how to be irresistible to men.
It’s actually crazy how many of us think that complaining, even if lightheartedly, is a great way to gain their empathy and consolation. Well, yeah, it might have them doing their best to make you feel better about a situation or whatever the heck it is that you’ve managed to complain about, and it’s kind of nice hearing them out as they try their best to reassure you, but come on. Be the bright, sunshiney light that you are, and steer away from the darkness of negativity!
Positivity is contagious, and when you exude this wondrous emotional trait, people (specifically men!) instantly love you. They want to attract your energy just so they can be around it. They want to be a part of your positivity. They want to try to be as positive as you are just to try and match the energy you are putting out, so get ready for those compliments to flood towards you as they attempt to equalize your positiveness with their own kind words.
Leave It On The Table
If you’re working on learning how to be irresistible to men, then during your first few interactions with a possible male of interest, try leaving a few things about yourself and your life on the table. Don’t tell or show him everything you possibly can about you, and maintain a touch of mystery to the person you are so that he feels inclined to be the detective.
Men like a little bit of mystery and part of your irresistibility is derived from their desire to uncover the minute details about you. The more you leave out there, the more they’ll keep running back to learn more, and the more experiences you will share together that help to bring you closer in realms of either relationships or sexuality.
Leaving some things about you on the table still allows you to be entirely yourself, but the definition of ‘yourself’ will simply be unknown to him, until he at least puts in the effort to try and learn more!
Sex Toys and Lingerie
Okay, so let’s say you’ve done it. You’ve got the man you’ve had your eyes on, and now things are starting to get a little hot and sweaty (sweaty sex for the win!). If your interactions happen to lead to a sexual encounter, how to be irresistible to men is somewhat the same in the bedroom as it is anywhere else. Be confident, put in a little work (ride away, cowgirl), and showcase positivity in your sexual encounters.
But aside from just this, to become irresistible to him in bed, sex toys and lingerie are two simple go-tos for insane pleasure.
There’s no shame in busting out your favorite sex toy to help break that orgasm gap. He’ll love that you are a little dirty and open enough with your sexuality to have some extra fun, and trust me, he won’t mind a little help in getting you to reach that big, elusive ‘O’.
And with a bit of lingerie, you cater to the experiential intimacy of the sexual encounter. You create a visual experience for him that is quite literally something out of his wildest dream, and hey, you look damn good in those sexy undies, so flaunt what you got!
Both sex toys and lingerie promote sexual intimacy and discovery, and by combining the two together, you will sit at your queen’s throne while he bows down on his knees and gets busy while you relax, succumbing to every possible relief of carnal delight.