As time has progressed and sexuality has become more open, the age old feeling that sex is the best with someone you love has dropped out of sight. Many of us are in open relationships, no relationship, or hooking up with multiple people at once. The more invested you are, the better your experience may be, but sometimes a one off thing can be life changing.  

One way to broaden your sexual experience may be to hire an escort. Now, if you’re female, you may feel like this is impossible. However, hiring an escort as a female is not impossible! We have some tips for you if you’re considering this. Read on to learn about it. 

The first thing to remember is that an escort is not someone you own just because you pay for their time. Escorts are not obligated to engage in any intimacy. What you’ve bought with an escort is their time,  and what they choose to do during that time is their business. Obviously,  sex is what is most likely going to take place when you hire a professional companion.

While socially many may see paid companionship unacceptable, there are actually a lot of advantages to it. One thing to be sure is you get the classiest companion you can afford to. That doesn’t mean the most expensive, but the people who have a successful career are less likely to be on drugs, have STDs or other things. Most professionals get tested regularly, and are careful to have safer sex. This is also something to bring up in the process of choosing someone.  Much like you have a screening process, they will as well!

You actually want someone who does an in depth screening. It may seem invasive or crazy, but this is a good way for them to be safe, and to be sure you are compatible. They need to know you aren’t a sex trafficker or a crazy, and being willing to help them feel more comfortable without arguing or complaining is a sign of respect. It puts everyone at ease and helps you understand their process. It’s also indicative that your escort is a professional, and not looking for a quick cash grab.

They may ask to see your LinkedIn. It shows that you are who you say you are and that you have a job. If you don’t have a profile, you may need to show your social media, ID, or whatever else they ask for. There are some services out there that offer vetting, but typically once you’ve been with an escort, you can use them as a reference should you decide to do it again. This is another reason being a good client is important! You also might want to see them again, so starting off right will help secure that opportunity.

There are several online directories for finding escorts, some of which will then direct you to the escort’s personal website if they have one. Eros is one of the most known. People with professionally done photos and websites will probably be a better bet, as it shows they take their career seriously. Some escorts travel on a regular basis or are available to travel to where you live. Each will have their own requirements and fee amount for this.

How the companion feels to you through conversation once you’ve contacted them is typically a great indication of whether or not they are a good fit for you. Their looks are important, but their overall vibe and attitude is as well.

Most escorts have a way they prefer to be contacted – respect that and begin that way. Some may require a phone call or FaceTime, while others may only want email or text.  Don’t be shy –  ask questions and communicate what it is you’re looking for. They can let you know whether they can or can’t accommodate these fantasies, and prevent you both from wasting time. 

Companions don’t care that you may not look like a model. A good client is someone who is easy to get along with, and respects them.

As for payment – put the stated or agreed upon rate for their time in cash placed in a plain white envelope set out in an obvious place at the beginning of the appointment. You may not want to hand it to them, to avoid the transactional feel. Shower, clean up, and brush your teeth!

You may want drinks, or snacks. Ask if they have a preference, if they may be hungry. Having a gift, such as flowers or a book is also a nice gesture, especially if you are looking to have a partner experience. The more you treat them like a person that you like and respect, the better time you are going to have with them because that treatment will be reflected back on to you! Comfort is key for both of you.

One of the reasons some hire escorts is because it can be a guarantee of a good time, without any worries about the awkwardness that you may encounter on dating apps or in person dates, especially if you are looking for a same sex encounter and it is your first time. 

The point is to have fun, and not to use the other person as a living sex doll. Treat it like a date, not a purchase. This helps it be a higher quality experience for all parties. Don’t be afraid to talk and be friendly! This builds the comfort levels as well. 

Hiring a professional companion can be a phenomenal experience that is friendly and positive, and an eye opening, sexy time. Social stigmas have really created boundaries that shouldn’t exist – being a companion is not a shameful thing, and neither is hiring one. It’s a job, and many in the profession do it because they enjoy it!

As for legalities- It’s legal to pay to spend time with someone, but there is a fine line between that and things that are not legal. Go into the process with some knowledge, and be cautious but open. At the end of the day, if you treat an escort with respect, and go into it with the intention of having fun, you’ll have an amazing time.