Aging does not mean that your sexual pleasure should take a back burner. As women, we often put our own pleasure and needs on hold. When you get older, you may not feel as desired or sexy as you did before, but you should! Sex has so many health benefits and is an intense source of pleasure. It’s time we take pleasure back in our hands, regardless of age. Sex toys for older women are still great ways to get off and enjoy the health and mental benefits of orgasm. There are not specific sex toys for older women – you can use any sex toy, regardless of age! Let’s dive into sex and aging. 

As we age, our bodies change. Older women may experience menopause, which can cause vaginal dryness and discomfort. Additionally, if your partner is not around or as sexually active as you want, investing in a good quality lubricant and a sex toy can be the perfect way to satisfy your needs and desires. According to studies and surveys, forty percent of people aged sixty-five to eighty are still sexually active.  

With this many people in an age category still active, it’s important to remember the health benefits of sex and orgasms. These can include:

• Immune system support
• Pain relief
• Reduced depression and anxiety
• Better sleep 

Now, as you age, you may approach sex and desire differently than before. Again, many women experience changes in their sex drive and desire due to menopause. These changes can include: 

• Body changes physically due to dropped levels of estrogen. 
• Vaginal wall thinning, which can be a culprit of painful sex.
• Less lubrication.
• Decreased sexual desire. 

Sexual health is important at any age!

By exercising your pelvic floor muscles, you can have better, stronger orgasms, and experience less incontinence if this affects you. Plus, this helps increase circulation to the pelvic area. This can help strengthen vaginal walls and muscles. There are many ben wa style vibrators out there designed to not only help you strengthen your pelvic muscles. 

Remember that not having a partner or having a partner with lower drive does not equate to you sacrificing your sexual health. Masturbation is a phenomenal stress reliever and helps release oxytocin into your system. This oxytocin release can help insomnia and relieve pain. 

Just because you may not be trying to get pregnant, does not mean that you shouldn’t enjoy sex. However, it’s important to remember to keep getting tested regularly for STDs, and to use protection. STDs are not fun no matter what your age is!

Why should older women use sex toys?

Sex toys and sexual aids add to your pleasure and help you enjoy sexual activity. The taboo around purchasing a sex toy is not the same as it used to be. Sex is a good thing, and if you can use something to bring sexual pleasure, why not do it?

There are so many sex toys on the market these days. Sex toys for older women are the same as sex toys for any woman! However, it can be a little confusing and overwhelming, especially if you’ve never purchased one, or spent your life knowing the stigma associated with sex toys. 

Why are sex toys so great for older women and all seniors? 

1. Sex toys meet the time constraints you may have. Older women typically need to be aroused longer to achieve orgasm.
2. Sex toys replace the need to use your hands, and are more ergonomic, making achieving orgasm easier and less painful. 
3. Sex toys are phenomenal if your partner’s libido is lower or you don’t have a partner. 
4. Sex toys are designed to stimulate areas you may not have stimulated before, or for a while, such as your clitoris and vulva. 

Sex toys are called toys because they add fun, pleasure, and playfulness to your life. They allow you to explore your body, add variety, and discover new sensations you may not have felt before. 

So what are the best sex toys for older women?

Since every woman is different, every woman will like a different kind of sex toy. Think about the pleasure you enjoy receiving. Do you enjoy clitoral stimulation? Penetration? We can choose the perfect toy for you based on your preferences. Plus, not all toys are made the same. It’s important to pick something body-safe and invest in a good sex toy. 

As we age, women experience less blood flow to their genitals, which means it takes longer to get aroused and achieve orgasm. This means that you want to consider a sex toy with a strong motor to achieve ultimate pleasure. The vaginal area also tends to become a lot more sensitive as we age, meaning the material is important as well. Sex toys for older women are ideally made with medical-grade, soft silicone, or stainless steel. These will be gentler and feel good on your body.

The best sex toys for older women are ones that:

• Have long battery life and are powerful
• Have easy to find and use buttons
• Are not too heavy
• Are rechargeable
• Are made of quality materials and are ideally waterproof
• And most importantly, are sex toys that are fine and make you feel good!

You may not love your sex toy the first time you try it. That’s totally okay! Make sure you try it more than once before making that decision. But, also remember that everyone is different and has different needs and desires. There is not just one “best” toy out there, but rather, the best sex toy for you.

How do you choose the best sex toy for you?

Start by asking yourself a few questions like:

1. How are you going to use your vibrator, and what stimulation do you want? Clitoral? G Spot? Dual stimulation?
2. Do you care what it looks like? There are very realistic sex toys, and there are also more discreet sex toys. 
3. What is the right size for you to use? Would a bullet satisfy your needs, or do you need a larger, more realistically sized dildo?

Should you use a lubricant?

The older we get, the less natural lubrication our bodies produce. This means that lubricant is a key for successful pleasure! Plus, lubricant leads to better stimulation, and more pleasure. Buy a lubricant that works with your sex toy. If your toy is made of silicone, stick with a water-based lube. If it’s stainless steel, it doesn’t matter as much. There are also warming lubricants to add more stimulation.

Sex toys for older women are the same as sex toys for any woman – you have to find out what pleases you desire, and stimulate it from there! Don’t be nervous about enjoying your sexual pleasure.