How to Have Hardcore Sex.

by | Sep 3, 2021 | Sex | 0 comments

A healthy, passionate sex life is ensuring that you cater to every possible aspect of sexuality. We all maintain unique differences in our definitions of what makes for ‘good sex’, with some requiring a focus on intimacy, others enjoying more aspects of hardcore sex to make them feel fulfilled. And more common than not, a level balance of both is the best way to achieve bedroom bliss. 

This article will focus on the side of hardcore sex, answering what is hardcore sex and how to add a touch of hardcore nature to your lovemaking so that sensation is invigorating and physicality matches the allure of mental gratification.

What is Hardcore Sex?

The levels of intensity required to deem sex as hardcore will vary for us all. Those used to a bit of rough and wild will require a more aggressive nature to what they can do to further enhance the hardcore nature of their sex, whereas those new to exploring hardcore sex will start on the more ‘mellow’ end of the intense spectrum. 

Hardcore sex is a broad definition, but overall, it is sex that promotes the intensity of sensation through more aggressive forms of lovemaking. This is manifested through the people involved with the incorporation of certain BDSM characteristics, higher levels of sensation through sensation and impact play, the verbal nature of sex, and other strategies to further induce a touch of roughness to how they approach their sex. 

Some might say that, to summarize, hardcore sex is fast, rough, loud, intense, and extremely memorable. So, if you want to know how to have hardcore sex, try implementing some of the strategies listed below for a new take on orgasmic and rough sensuality. 

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Introductory BDSM 

One of the best answers to how to have hardcore sex lies in incorporating certain traits derived from BDSM. For a hardcore sex beginner, crafting a dominant and submissive relationship into your intimacy is one of the best places to start. 

Try and determine which partner enjoys control and which partner enjoys allowing another to take control more, and use this to define who is the dominant and who is the submissive. If you are both equal, you can always switch this around during different sessions of lovemaking. 

When this construct is established, use it to promote the hardcore nature of your sex. The dominant partner should maintain all control during the situation, directing the play with verbal and physical instructions that the submissive must follow (as long as there is consent and a safe word, of course!), and this alone is rather hardcore some. With this in mind, then utilize this BDSM setup to further enhance the intensity. Practice light BDSM before pursuing more intense aspects of this play. 

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Impact Play

Impact play is a type of sexual practice in which one of the partners instills pain and punishment through varying forms of physical impact and will significantly adhere to fulfilling the desires of hardcore sex. 

Spanking

A wonderful introduction to impact play is to start with simple spanking sex. Spanking is perfect because the one providing the impact can direct their power accordingly, increasing the strengths of their spanks as the situation calls for. 

If leaving hand marks across the goosebump-riddled skin of your partner isn’t hardcore enough, then you can up the spanking game even more. 

Whips 

A BDSM whip greatly increases the sensation of spanking. By using a whip, you can really generate pleasure-inducing pain. Tease your partner by rubbing the leather strands gently across their erogenous zones, and surprise them with the erotic hit of elegant leather across their soft skin. 

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Paddles/Crop

For another form of impact play, paddles and crops again allow for some kinky pain that many relish. Harder than a hand and more of a broad, strong base than a whip, paddles, and crops with have your butt bruised in no time, the perfect way to bring about hardcore sex while in doggy style and other positions where the butt is exposed. 

Sensation Play 

Sensation play is a way to enhance the already toe-curling feelings derived from sex but in a manner that produces even more of a heightened physical response. Sensation play is a term of many definitions, including impact play (as the sensations of impact are wild and fun), and will help you discover exactly what is hardcore sex in relation to your love life. 

Temperature Play

To add a touch of hardcore surrounding your intimacy, try playing around with the insanely invigorating effects of temperature play, which many would deem a hardcore sex practice. There are many ways to implement temperature play, and one of the best is to simply run a glass dildo or a butt plug under warm or cold water to present the sexual nerve endings with a fresh, new take on pleasure derived from a range of temperature.

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Restraint

The sensation of being tied up greatly promotes the dominant and submissive relationship. When a submissive is tied up, they allow themselves to completely succumb to their dominant desires. To really make things hardcore, try trying your partner up to the bedpost or use handcuffs to force their arms behind them. 

Not only is the forceful nature of light bondage erotic and kinky, but being completely powerless allows your lover to embody their deepest of hardcore sex desires and turn them into a reality as your restricted body accepts any of their punishments. 

Food Play

Food play isn’t necessarily rough in terms of how it presents sensation, but it can be considered a form of hardcore sex due to the fact that many people go an entire lifetime without experimenting with a touch of food in conjunction with their sex. 

Food play raises the sensation of sex by adding a unique spice to the taste of your love life. Whipping cream on the nipples, using food in replacement of a phallus, eating foods that boost libido to enjoy the animal like fulfillment of eating before engaging in sexual practice. Food play is fun, and you can make it hardcore and as messy as you so please. 

BDSM Pinwheel

A BDSM pinwheel is a beautiful toy that allows you to experiment with exciting sensations. You can run the spikes across the skin and erogenous zones to promote the physical sensation of sexual nerve endings, and if you’re really into hardcore, you can press the spikes firm and hard into the skin. And when it comes to hardcore sex, a BDSM pinwheel is your best friend. 

You can run the Waterberg wheel over sensitive areas, such as skin that is red from spanking, to further enhance the painful yet enticing sensation provided by this hardcore sex toy, and may run cool or warm water over the stainless steel to combine this with aspects of temperature play. 

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Hair Pulling

Hair pulling is one of the easiest to implement yet effective means of how to have hardcore sex. A lot of couples already use this to their advantage, and if you’re new to hardcore, then this is an excellent place to start. Hair pulling shows that you are in control; it hurts so good, and promotes the visual aspects of sex, as nothing looks as good as hair being tugged in doggy style. 

Choking

Remind your partner to appreciate every breath they take and that you are in control of this very breath by adding a bit of choking into your hardcore sex. Choking can be done with only your hands, and can be further intensified with BDSM sex toys such as a collar or a gag-ball to never take for granted a deep breath again. 

Experiment with Sexual Kinks

Sexual kinks are absolutely synonymous with hardcore sex, as many kinks are characterized by their hardcore ideologies. In an effort to promote hardcore sex, it is vital that you follow through with any kinks that spark an interest in your mind. 

You should never be embarrassed of your kinks and never steer away from them, as this does nothing but lessen sexual fulfillment. If you already know what your sexual kink is, then talk to your partner about how you can go about incorporating it into your sex life. 

And if you don’t know what your kink is, try visiting our list of kinks and fetishes to begin the sensational journey into the epitome of hardcore sex inspired by the dirty, wild, and fun exploration of kinks with your partner. 

Sex Toys, Of Course! 

We love sex toys, and you should too. Sex toys are essential to masturbation practices, both self-love and mutual masturbation, but are also one of the best toys to begin experimenting with hardcore sex. 

Even if a toy isn’t straight out of a BDSM dungeon, they don’t have to be! The thing about toys is that they allow your body to feel sensations never before known and that are impossible to derive from a human being, as a penis doesn’t vibrate and please the clitoris the same way a dual sensation sex toy does- and its really just as simple as that!

A couple who has never used a sex toy in their partner sex will very much define this as a hardcore practice, and not only will the physical response of sex increase due to the toy doing their intended job, but so will the hardcore element of mental fulfillment

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For example, let’s say you are interested in threesome sex but aren’t quite willing to pursue this with another human being. With a threesome being a version of hardcore sex, a dildo allows you to create this experience without stepping across any of your boundaries. 

Sex toys are amazing assets in safely exploring many other versions of kinks, not just threesomes, such as creating a homemade Gloryhole to satisfy a dream of stranger play with your partner. Want to know more about how sex toys satify kinks and fetishes? We got ya covered!

If you want to have hardcore sex that caters to every range of possible pleasure, sex toys are the best way to go!

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