After the foot fetish, it’s time for a… hand fetish? Yes, it’s a thing, and it’s more popular than you think, especially among women. Are you ready to get sexually educated?
We hope you find this article very handy indeed.
What Is a Hand Fetish?
Hand fetish (which also has a fancy name; cheirophilia) is common among both men and women, and it’s defined as a sexual attraction to hands.
What does it mean in practice? It might simply mean that you find a man more attractive if his hands look nice or that you love sucking someone’s fingers. Everyone’s preferences vary slightly, but the idea is the same: hands are hot, period. Keep reading to find out why.
Why Do People Have a Hand Fetish?
A lot of people don’t understand the hand fetish. Hands are dirty after all; we use them for all kinds of activities, and there’s nothing attractive about germs. But fetishes are rarely logical, and humans are sexual beings that could find every body part arousing if they wanted to.
But there’s more to the fetish than just a simple preference. Previous studies suggest that there’s a correlation between someone’s facial attractiveness and their hands and that hands might matter as much as a good-looking face and body in a potential partner. Perhaps we’re all biologically wired to recognize hands as a symbol of attractiveness.
Here are some of the most common reasons why hands can be so appealing:
1. Hands are arousing if you imagine what they can do
Have you ever heard that a man’s hand size indicates how big his penis is? It’s one of the reasons you might find big hands sexually attractive or even pay attention to hands at all, but it’s only a part of the story. In reality, it’s not as much about the appearance but about what hands can potentially do. If you’re attracted to a man, you might imagine having sex with him, and naturally, fingering is a part of that. Hands are essentially what can stimulate your clitoris, which is the key to female pleasure. But it’s not just about sex either. A man uses his hands to stroke your cheek, play with your hair and hold onto your waist – all these things that can provide you with a sense of comfort. If your love language is physical touch, you’re more likely to find hands arousing.
2. You can tell a lot about a person from the way their hands look
What kind of hands turn you on the most? Hands with immaculate fingernails or maybe fingers that are longer than yours? A lot of women like it when a man has visible veins on his hands because it indicates physical strength and hard work, which gives them a feeling of safety. While bigger hands might be arousing because they’re a sign of masculinity, more feminine hands might tell you that a man cares about personal hygiene, which is extremely hot too.
How To Fulfil Your Hand Fetish With or Without a Partner
1. Book yourself a sensual massage
A hand fetish doesn’t have to have much to do with sex, at least not directly. Book yourself a sensual massage to explore your fetish and gain sexual satisfaction while staying single. If you want to get the most out of it, you can focus on the way the massager’s hands feel on your body and fantasize about a scenario of your choice.
2. Have sex in front of the mirror
If you want to enjoy hand fetish sex, sit in front of a big mirror or simply sneak in a small mirror during intercourse and use it to watch the way your partner fingers you. You can also ask your partner to pay more attention to foreplay than usual; have him touch you slowly and experiment with different movements. If you have a finger fetish, you can incorporate food into the play; watching your partner eat and lick his fingers might be a bigger turn-on than being touched.
3. Watch porn dedicated to hands
The simplest way to satisfy your fetish when you’re single is watching ethical porn that can add to your arousal. There are plenty of themes you can choose from; sucking on fingers, fingering, and hand jobs, to name a few.
4. Read erotica
Reading stories that feature your fetish allows you to explore it further and find a scenario that works best for you. Plus, your orgasm will be a lot stronger if you build up to it slowly, so don’t be afraid to experiment.
5. Try fisting
Fisting is a sexual activity that involves inserting your or someone’s hand into your vagina or anus. It might be just what you need to have a satisfying hand fetish sex, but make sure you’re relaxed and lubricated enough because lack of preparation can get you a trip to a hospital. Talk things through with your partner and read a guide on fisting before you attempt it.
How To Fulfil Your Partner’s Hand Fetish
1. Give him a hand job
A hand job is a real treat for a man who can’t get enough of female hands. Watch some videos to improve your technique and figure out the pace and style your partner enjoys the most. Pro tip: use one hand to stimulate his penis and the other hand to stroke his chest. You can also ask him what he wants you to do and go from there.
2. Improve your Foreplay
Every man with a female hand fetish loves a good hand job, but it’s not the only thing you can do with your hands. Get creative! You can draw attention to your hands in everything you do; when you’re taking your clothes off, make sure to trace your fingers along your erogenous zones and when you’re touching your partner, make the movement as slow as possible. You can insert fingers into his mouth and then move towards his genitals.
3. Take care of your hands
A lot of men find female hands sexually attractive because they tend to be very different from what their hands look like—for example, seeing long nails can be incredibly arousing. If a woman’s hands are delicate, they might also trigger a man’s need to protect them. If you want to satisfy your partner, it’s time to take extra care of your hands. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go for a funky manicure every week, but simply keeping them clean can go a long way. And if you want to surprise your partner with a cute design once in a while, you’ll probably get brownie points for that.
4. Get creative and tease him in public
When your partner is into something that you basically carry with you everywhere, you can tease him whenever you want and wherever you are. For example, if you’re having dinner with your friends, you can appeal to his finger fetish by discreetly licking your fingers or playing with your hair while keeping eye contact. No one else will know what’s going on, but you’ll be driving your partner mad. Remember, your imagination is your only limit.