We are all unique in our sexual identities.

Where some of us entirely shun the idea of sex with more than one partner at the same time, especially those who are headstrong about maintaining monogamy, others relish this alluring idea. 

Group sex is actually quite common, with many people passionate about this practice, and there exist plentiful reasonings as to why this is the case. 

If you want to learn more about group sex and the varying forms of group sex that exist, were here to shine a little light on this enticing subject. 

It’s hard to believe it, but group sex and sex parties are actually real. 

An orgy is a great opportunity for curious singles and couples to explore their kinks in a safe, fun, group environment. Do you fantasize about having group sex? Maybe you think you would enjoy being watched while you masturbate. If you decide to participate in an orgy, all of these ideas are totally real and attainable. We’ve put together some need-to-knows before you attend your first sex party- read on for more.

What is Group Sex?

Group sex is a sexual interaction of which occurs between more than two people. The number of people involved can range anywhere from three to hundreds, but at minimum, there must be more than two individuals at a concurrent time and in the same setting to fall under the category of group sex. 

Group sex is, however, an extensive term that encompasses multiple subsets of sexual behavior. There are many different varieties of group sex, and they involve all genders and all sexual orientations. Some varieties are better suited for certain people/couples than others, so let us dive into the details to help you discover if this is a kink you wish to fulfill!

1. Research! 

   So you’ve been invited to a group sex session or orgy. That’s so exciting! However, before attending, it’s important to do some homework. Parties usually have rules, so knowing them is key to a successful, enjoyable experience. If you want to try a particular kink, or are interested in something, check to see if that’s something that’s allowed or welcome at this event. If you don’t know the host, ask the person who invited you. 

2. Bring a friend if you can. 

Orgies can be considered risque, as most people are not open to group sex sessions. If this is your first time, you may not be all that comfortable baring it all and going at it in front of people you don’t know. Having a friend or someone you know may make you feel safer. 

3. Come prepared.

Check to see if the party has a theme, and whether you can bring toys or props with you. Safety is also key, and since you likely don’t know each person’s status regarding STIs and STDs, having protection with you is incredibly vital. Bring condoms, lubricants, and anything else you may possibly need. Bring extras! Someone is bound to have forgotten them and will appreciate you for it.  

4. Let someone know your location.

   Safety is ever important. If you’re going to attend one of these parties and don’t know many people, make sure a friend who isn’t going knows your location. You don’t have to tell them what you’re doing, but have them check in on you via phone. If your gut tells you to leave, be sure to leave. It’s important to protect yourself. Let the host of the party know if someone, in particular, makes you feel uneasy or uncomfortable as well, so they can keep an eye on you. 

5. Be sure to look around.

Don’t let everything going on overwhelm you. Take your time to walk around and get your bearings before jumping into the festivities! There will be a lot of people, and you may not want to or be attracted to all of them. Scope out the vibe, and see who catches your eye. 

6. Find your safe spot. 

Lounge around in a place you’re comfortable, and let people approach you. If you just lurk and walk around, you may make other people uncomfortable. You can also approach people if there is someone you’re interested in who is available. 

7. Consent is everything. 

Being at an orgy doesn’t mean that anything goes. Everyone has boundaries, and not everyone is comfortable with things. Some people may be there with their partner just to enjoy the thrill of watching or being watched. Some people may have someone who’s caught their eye already. Be sure to ask the limits and boundaries of anyone who you interact with sexually, and keep safety and comfortability your top priority. 

The Different Kinds of Group Sex

The kind of group sex depends on the number of people involved, the environment, location, and many other aspects that will either entice you alluringly in or shun you away. Here they are:

A Threesome

A threesome is one of the most popular forms of group sex. To most, a threesome feels safe and secure, as there still remains the ability to focus on intimacy, and a couple can work together on fulfilling their threesome journey in a way that never goes overboard with jealousy. 

A threesome is the baseline form of group sex, as it is the type of group sex with the least amount of partners involved, and is the best place to start if you are new to group sex yet want to discover the benefits and sexual fulfillments that the practice will provide. 

Genders and sexual orientation again matter not, as a threesome can be male-female-female, male-male-female, male-male-male, or female-female-female.

If you want to discover if a threesome feels suitable for you and your partner, an excellent place to start is by incorporating role-playing scenarios that involve sex toys of another human sex organ, such as a realistic dildo or a pocket pussy. 

Swingers/Swinging

Swingers are couples who love switching their partners with other, consensual couples. This practice is often undergone in a group sex scenario in which all couples involved have sex at concurrent times and together in the same place. 

During swinger group sex, it is common for the wives to trade out their husbands for the others, but sex between all four partners involved (such as bisexual sex between the husbands) is, of course, not off limits!

Swinging group sex is a great way for couples in long-term relationships to spice up their sex life and enjoy other partners inclusively and fairly to all involved.

Sex Parties

Group sex is often orchestrated through parties, usually aimed at swingers. Parties like a key party, where you throw your key in a bowl and go home with whoever’s key you randomly pull, or events promoted by sex clubs, allow for easy access for individuals with the same sexual passions to meet.

If you’re looking to practice group sex, then a sex party might just be the perfect place to meet that plus one (or plus two, three, four, infinity!). 

Sometimes sex occurs at the location of the actual party, and sometimes it involves bringing others home with you. As well as this, some sex parties are public parties that involve only strangers, and others might include friends or acquaintances you are close with, so make sure to learn the details before throwing yourself right into the mix. 

Group Masturbation

Group sex doesn’t just have to include penile to vaginal, penetrative sex, as it can manifest as sex in any of its forms, one of them being masturbation. 

Group masturbation is a less intimate form of group sex that doesn’t involve touching and can be done with single individuals or couples alike, and with as many people as you wish!

Often this takes place with the group sitting in a circle, and the group sex scenario acts as a form of a live show to fuel the passionate masturbation with kinky visuals driven by the wild lust of the situation. 

Group masturbation is a seriously fun way to explore group sex as a couple without pushing any boundaries too far, and is a wonderful place to start in determining if you are capable of bringing other people into your sexual relationship without jealousy or similar issues winning over. 

For an even less intimate approach, you can consider practicing group masturbation online with other couples or individuals before getting into the real, live deal. 

Orgies

Orgies are the epitome of group sex. 

Though they might have been more popular in the middle ages, that doesn’t mean plenty of people don’t practice this erotic form of sex, and orgies are still prominent today. 

An orgy is defined as an aggressive sexual indulgence of multiple people at the same time, and involves large groups. So yes, we were not talking 3-4 people here, and instead were looking more towards the double digits and beyond!

In an orgy, those involved can switch between multiple partners, practice double penetration, can masturbate as they watch, and in the end, the point is to really just enjoy the feeling of making love to groups of other beautiful, like-minded individuals.

Group sex at its finest!

Is Group Sex for Me?

In the end, only you are aware of your true sexual desires and likings. Suppose you feel as though group sex is something that you need to fully fulfill yourself sexually. In that case, you should absolutely think to pursue it in a safe and controlled manner that never pushes your personal limits. 

If you are with a partner, of course, this is going to take some serious conversation surrounding the subject, so be ready to pop open that bottle of wine before speaking out on your desires. Chances are, as group sex is one of the single most popular kinks to exist globally, they won’t complain a bit and will be as equally excited to give it a go as yourself!

Group sex is adored by those who practice it because it provides an extreme sense of confidence. Nothing feels better than being loved, and sex promotes intimacy. The more people you create a connection with (even if the connection is but for a moment), the more attractive and the more confident you will feel. 

With this being said, group sex promotes higher amounts of STDs, so always be sure to consistently have yourself tested and use as much protection as possible during your chosen group sex method. 

And most importantly, have some dang fun!