People from all different gender identities either love, like, or dislike giving head. For those who love giving head, there has to be a reason. If you enjoy going down on your partner, there’s a high probability that he or she may also want to go down on you. Returning the favor is a really great thing, as is receiving the act when you love. Why do people love giving head?

How To Give Head.

Everyone enjoys different things in their sex life and in the bedroom, so not everyone will love giving or receiving oral. There’s a psychological aspect to loving giving head, such as the power switch. Your partner is vulnerable and at your mercy to receive pleasure. There’s also the physical aspect as well. Some actually love the sensation of a penis inside their mouth, or their mouth being on a woman’s vagina. There is also an emotional aspect of oral sex, such as being able to show your partner how much you love and appreciate them on a more intimate level.

However, remember that not all partners enjoy giving head or oral sex. This is totally okay as well! You also can’t expect to receive if you refuse to give (or vice versa). Though, if you love to receive and your partner loves to give but doesn’t want to receive, that’s something you can work out together. Again, not everyone loves to give or receive, and we compromise where we must.

Some people say that giving head makes them feel sexier in the relationship. Feeling a man gets harder, or a woman gets extremely wet, are extreme turn-ons. They also mention feeling in control and enjoying pleasing their partner. Giving head is also a great way to keep each other satisfied without actually having sex. Sometimes you or they may be tired! Sex may seem impossible, but giving head is an easy compromise. This allows you both to feel pleasure, without all of the physical exertion that goes into having sex.

Feeling the pleasure of giving your partner oral can really make you even closer to your partner as well. With men, there are so many ways to give head: deep throating, just the tip, different techniques. Light teasing and sucking on the balls is also super exciting. Women receiving a head can be focused on just the clitoris or involve the vagina as well. All of this is part of what it is to give head. When you give head, you also warm up for sex. It’s great foreplay, and while just giving head can be the main act, it can be a very pleasurable way to segway into the act of sex with your partner. The slow build-up is tantalizing and intoxicating. It is very exciting for both partners as well.

For women, they may be more vocal with receiving head from their partner. In the case of more quiet men, they may be more vocal as well. If your partner is usually very quiet, see how they act when you give them head. If you crave that louder noise, they will probably give it to you when it comes to this act. If they do, it is all the more reason to continue giving it to them!

Some men and women enjoy the taste of their partner’s cum as well. When giving oral, you are in the perfect position to get to experience this with your partner. Whether male or female, you have a great opportunity to truly enjoy and experience your partner orgasming. This is all because of something you are able to do! If you are a pleaser in the bedroom, giving head is exactly what you can do to satisfy that urge to please. You see their head fall back, hear them moan, and feel and taste their body enjoying every small movement that you make. Plus, again, this kind of foreplay is a phenomenal way to get in the mood for even more sexy acts together.

Giving your partner head is also a dominant and submissive act in the bedroom. You are dominating their body and their pleasure, but being submissive by doing the things that they like to experience.

Now that we’ve touched on these different reasons why some partners love to give head, here are some tips to help you be successful at giving the best head your partner has ever received.

Build up the anticipation!

Text your partner during the day and tell them what you are going to do to them tonight. Be detailed. A sexy text has the ability to make your partner wet or hard instantly. It also creates the anticipation of you both waiting for the moment that you see each other. The sexual tension will be absolutely intense. This also allows you to really ramp up the adrenaline in each other, making it impossible to keep your hands off one another.

Please other areas first.

Don’t just jump into oral. Kiss each other’s entire bodies! Add in some passion. Talk dirty, spank each other, give a hand job or finger your partner beforehand. This builds up even more anticipation for the big moment. Work your way down very slowly. Again, keep the anticipation and tension high. This allows for both of you to be as turned on as possible.

Find the magic spot for them.

For a woman, this is most likely her clitoris. For a man, there is probably a specific area on his penis that he will enjoy you sucking on or licking. Finding that spot is a great way to trigger all the moans you want to hear. Use your hands too! And if you’re going down, give some moans. That added vocal action will not only trigger more sensations, but also make them feel like you are enjoying this as much as they are, which adds to the turn-on. Flick your tongue, and use it to change the speed and intensity down there. The change in motions is even sexier and adds so much more sensation. Apply some pressure with your tongue, and make sure you ask what they do and don’t like.