The G Spot (Grafenberg spot) is such an elusive area for many to locate. It’s almost like aliens – we think they exist, but we aren’t really sure.
So what exactly is the G Spot?
The G Spot is an erogenous zone inside of the vagina, on the frontal wall of the vagina, about two to three inches deep. The Grafenberg spot is a very sensitive area of nerve endings that all come from the internal part of the clitoris, which is why clitoral stimulation is key to also stimulating the G Spot! This stimulation is typically what leads to “squirting” or female ejaculation as well.
What does G Spot stimulation feel like?
For those who have felt G Spot stimulation, they usually describe it as if they have the urge to urinate when the Grafenberg spot is stimulated. That makes a lot of sense, as the Grafenberg spot is housed by the urethral sponge, and the urethral sponge also surrounds the urethra. However, everyone’s body is different, and Grafenberg spot stimulation may not feel like this for you. G Spot stimulation is also described as a pulsing sensation throughout the vaginal walls and deep inside of the vagina.
So, how do I stimulate my Grafenberg Spot?
The Grafenberg area can be stimulated in a plethora of ways – from fingers, penis, or toys! Which you choose to use is really up to personal preference, and there’s no right or wrong way. You really just want to choose the stimulation that feels the most pleasurable for you and your body.
Stimulating the Grafenberg area with fingers:
Stimulating the Grafenberg area with fingers is one of our favorite ways for beginners. Fingers allow you to actually find and feel the Grafenberg spot. It has a particular texture, which some people explain as feeling like a golf ball. It’s a rough, walnut-style texture that is very different from the smooth walls of the vagina. Before jumping right into it, make sure that you are aroused and turned on! You want to be lubricated, whether that’s naturally or with lube. Try two fingers – or one, or three – and stroke upwards in a curling motion towards the front of your vagina/ Once you’ve found it, you can try stroking it, moving in circles, up and down or side to side movements, and even just by tapping it gently. Once you can find out what feels best for you, you can isolate and focus on that sensation until you reach your orgasm. You can also help your partner locate it once you know where it is!
Try using a G Spot toy:
G Spot toys are specifically designed to help stimulate the Grafenberg area. They typically have a bulb-shaped end that angles or curves around so that you can stimulate the G Spot easily, without a lot of work. These are a great option for beginners, but can also help those that struggle with using their fingers at that style angle. We always recommend lubricant to make it easier and more pleasurable too! G-Spot toys come as vibrators or just dildos, so you can pick the most useful and exciting toy for you. Glass dildos can be exceptional for Grafenberg area stimulation, due to their hard and rigid shape that really focuses on the spot it’s touching. However, vibrators that offer Grafenberg spot stimulation also help with orgasms, as some find the vibrations to intensify the pleasurable feelings of the G Spot stimulation they are experiencing.
G Spot stimulation with a penis or strap on:
We’ve established that the G area is located on the frontal facing wall of the vagina. Since we know this, we can deduct that a sex position in which a penis or strap om is angled towards the front of your vagina is going to be the best stimulator. Doggy style or other from behind positions are usually super conducive to Grafenberg spot stimulation because of the angle of the penis or strap on, but there are also wedge pillows sold specifically to help with angling the pelvis for better stimulation during sex. The Grafenberg spot is only about two to three inches deep in the vagina, so you don’t need for really hard, long strokes. It’s best to have short thrusts with a steady pressure to maintain that Grafenberg area stimulation. Strap-ons are incredible for the control and precision that they offer, and the wide variety of shapes and sizes available.
G Spot stimulation tips
Just because you don’t get it the first time, doesn’t mean you won’t get it!
Not every person is as sensitive to Grafenberg area stimulation as the next! It can be tricky to find the exact spot, and the sensitivity levels can vary. If you are on certain medications, have poor sleeping habits, or even poor eating habits, you may not find that elusive pleasure spot as easily as you want to. Don’t worry though; once you do find it, it’s non-stop waves of pleasure from there. The more you focus on finding it, the less likely you will be to succeed.
Be sure not to stress about finding your Grafenberg area.
It’s important to relax. If you are focused and tense about finding your Grafenberg area, you’ll have less of a chance. Your pelvic floor tenses up when you are nervous or stressed, which can actually hinder blood flow and full ability to be turned on. This can make sex and foreplay far less pleasurable, which essentially removes the entire purpose of it! You need to be sure to be mentally and physically relaxed while you are in the moment. Have a glass of wine, focus on feeling pleasure, and let the good times roll.
Do not neglect your clitoris!
Yes, the G Spot is amazing, but remember that the G Spot and the clitoris are combined! If you are aroused and you focus on clitoral stimulation, you’ll have a better chance of finding and stimulating the G Spot. You can even stimulate these dually so that you get maximal pleasure. It is super enjoyable to have this style of blended orgasm, and while it may seem elusive, it’s truly not if you try to relax and love the feelings washing over you.
So go forth and explore! Your Grafenberg area and your body will quite literally thank you for it.