We never tire in our quest to intensify orgasm and the pleasure associated with it. Erotic hypnosis is not only used to intensify orgasms, but it also offers relaxation, connection, and of course, pleasure.
According to Kaz Riley, a kink-friendly clinical hypnotherapist who treats people with sexual dysfunction, “Erotic hypnosis entails using hypnosis to enhance sensuality, sexual response, feelings, and sensations without necessarily needing to be touched.”
So yes, this quite literally is a form of hands-off sex.
Uses of Erotic Hypnosis
Erotic hypnosis helps achieve deeper levels of connection with your partner and to intensify orgasms during sexual intercourse. It has also helped people overcome sexual shame, trauma, or dysfunction, and erotic hypnosis is an accessory tool in the field of BDSM.
Who Can Practice Erotic Hypnotism?
It’s not just limited to hypnotists or practitioners! Literally, every single person can explore their erotic and sexual self through the exploration of erotic hypnosis.
This is emphasized by Riley. “Yes, anyone could have an orgasm through erotic hypnosis, provided they felt safe enough to do so.”
So What Actually is Erotic Hypnosis?
Erotic hypnosis falls under the realm of hypnosis, which is defined as “a trance-like state in which you have heightened focus and concentration.”
It’s a kind of guided meditation that’s intended to relax and turn you on by catering to the mental side of sex, so much so that you can orgasm with no touching at all.
Sounds impossible? It’s not at all. Quite the game-changer we have here, fellas!
Misconceptions About Sex
People think of sex as something tactile or corporeal, but they don’t acknowledge the psychological aspects of it.
It is possible to orgasm from just our brain stimulation alone, so imagine the profound effect our psychology has on all other aspects of sex.
That’s why when you’re not in ‘the mood’ for sex, your brain is not getting turned on, your body following suit by having a hard time getting over this feeling, and eventually, you’ll find it less pleasurable.
The inhibitions are suppressed, but they are still there.
According to John.S “You’re extraordinarily relaxed, your conscious mind is somewhat subdued, and you can have a conversation, but you’re more susceptible or vulnerable than normal” when under a state of erotic hypnosis, and this allows the brain to fully succumb to one’s sexual self and desires, even if they are imaginative.
What Makes This Erotic Hypnosis Effective?
According to Live Science, it’s not the tranquil state itself that’s therapeutic about hypnosis, but rather the effects that the suggestions a hypnotist makes (while you’re in that state) can have on you.
Why is Erotic Hypnosis Called ‘Erotic’?
What erotic hypnosis really comes down to is a particular iteration of the prevalent desire for domination. The steaminess of erotic hypnosis depends on the setting of hypnosis, the goal of hypnosis, and who the hypnotist is.
The session could go in any direction depending on the client’s desire and preference, and this makes it a very unique experience each time.
Are Erotic Hypnosis, ASMR, and Audio Porn the Same?
No, these three are entirely different entities.
Audio porn and ASMR act as external stimuli and can both help you experience physical sensations via voice and sound. But erotic hypnosis has access to a deeper level of connection which allows it to achieve arousal more effectively.
Can you do it online, or is an IRL connection key?
While expert-led audio guides can be pretty soothing and dreamy, connecting with your go-to hypnotist can be tricky, as a lot of people show themselves to be experts when they’re not, so do your due diligence when looking for a hypnotist.
Once you’ve found your hypnotist, communicate effectively with him/her and then trust him/her without being skeptical.
Riley adds: “Anybody who doesn’t want to know what your limits or wishes or safe words are isn’t a professional you want to be engaging with”, so keep that in mind!
How Do You Get Started?
The prerequisites of erotic hypnosis:
This includes setting ground rules and goals. Set your standards and be determined to practice the art of mastering your orgasm. The boundaries and necessary safety mechanisms are also discussed for optimal comfort and protection.
The first step is the induction of Hypnosis. “This can be done in a number of different ways, but this is generally done with voice. This could include touch or not,” Riley says.
After some experimentation with regular hypnosis, try incorporating these erotic hypnosis techniques to add a metaphysically orgasmic element to your sex life:
Deep breaths help you relax and clear space in your mind, leaving you more susceptible to the possibility of pleasure-seeking.
The most important element of erotic Hypnosis is the way the hypnotist’s words penetrate your subconscious. Whether you’re with a partner or DIY-ing it, a little dirty talk can do wonders for your mood.
If you can get your mind free of distractions before you jump into bed, you’ll be more likely to be present and capable of reaching orgasm if you meditate before. The same goes for erotic hypnosis.
Focus on Not Focusing
If you can focus on what you’re feeling without overthinking it (that is, focus on the sensations rather than what you think you should/shouldn’t be feeling), you may be able to achieve that transcendent kind of turned on the state that people go for when they’re watching these videos.
Anxiety burns off, and when all the stress and miasma of life is emptied from your mind, then you have the mental space to get really turned on just by aural stimulation and experience deep relaxation, vivid hallucinations, suppressed memories, or uncover core beliefs that you were previously unaware of.
Is It Not Working For You? Try This.
If it’s not working for you, communicate with your hypnotist. If he or she is unable to help you achieve your goals, try getting a new one. This is trial and error based, getting better with every practice.
Are You Practicing Erotic Hypnotism With Your Partner?
If you want to erotically hypnotize someone else, you’ll have to learn the technique, having a clear idea of what you’re doing. You can always get help from the internet or your hypnotist.
And when you get your partner to try this with you, remember that “It’s not about your needs, wants, and desires, it’s about your subject’s needs, wants, and desires” (Riley).
Is there anything you can do to enhance the experience?
Innovation is the key to dive into the pool of pleasure. Try using sex toys, having oral sex, bringing in bondage, and exploring multiple orgasms in a single session.
Science Behind Hypnosis
So, hypnotists are basically magicians who use words to manipulate our pliable minds. During the sessions, they guide their subjects from a higher activity beta state down to a calmer alpha, theta, or delta brain wave, where the open playground of the subconscious mind reigns.
Risks of Erotic Hypnosis
Apart from all the dreamy perks of erotic hypnosis, there may be some risks associated with it.
There is always a risk of being carried away, leading to violation of ground rules.
There have been cases of sexual abuse by the hypnotists, as the subjects are in a vulnerable state of mind. That’s why, always take your time before trusting a new person, and be on the lookout for the red flags.
Unintended Psychological Effects
Freud, who gave the psychoanalytic theory of sexual development, abandoned the use of hypnosis with his patients because he was unable to effectively control their subconscious minds in reliable ways.
The vast majority of erotic hypnotists in the BDSM scene lack effective training and skills. They don’t even know what they’re up to. Letting someone manipulate your subconscious can bear consequences, as there is always an element of uncertainty because our mind is a powerful and unpredictable enigma.
Hypnotists often suggest triggers to participants which help them associate non-sexual stimuli or words to sexual arousal.
With planning, practice, safeguards, and a commitment to ethical play, consensual mind control can be a fun tool intimate partners can use to dive in deeper and level up their sexual intercourse.