How to Master Cunnilingus.

by | Jun 24, 2021 | Sex Education | 0 comments

If you haven’t heard of the term cunnilingus, it is a word used to describe oral sex performed on a person with a vulva, a.k.a female oral sex.

Other words for cunnilingus include ‘eating her out, ‘going down on her’, and ‘giving head’, but for our sake, we’re going to keep it classy (almost as classy as our sex toys) and stick to cunnilingus. 

It’s relatively safe to say that cunnilingus is a lost art, with more bad oral sex than good. But when cunnilingus acts as such an excellent form of foreplay, helping to lead to the most orgasm-inducing of sex and (for those who have managed to master this sexual art) sometimes climax from the oral alone, the importance of becoming a master of the tongue is highlighted. 

Performing oral sex on your female partner is an essential aspect of healthy, invigorating sex life. If you want to watch her eyes roll back as she lets out a deep moan while your tongue does all the magic, then stick around for a few tips on prime-time oral in this simple-to-digest guide to cunnilingus.

Notes regarding cunnilingus

Before getting into some definitive techniques for you to try, there are a few important things to note regarding cunnilingus. 

The first is answering the question of why cunnilingus feels good and why it is a necessary part of sex. With the use of the tongue and the lips, oral sex is one of the most gentle, wet, and therefore one of the best ways to promote stimulation of the clitoris

And with up to 80% of women requiring clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, the word necessary further solidifies itself. So although there are plenty of other ways to send shivers down her spine via clitoral play, such as her favorite vibrator, the kinky, moist, and fun nature of cunnilingus simply cannot be beaten. 

Another important thing to note is the fear associated with cunnilingus, the anxiety stemming from she who will receive. Although it shouldn’t be, it is common for women to feel self-conscious about their private parts, specifically their vulva, especially when things are about to become as close and intimate as oral

Just remember that not only is this fear and hesitation normal, but that no one is perfect and that there’s a pretty guaranteed chance that your partner has absolutely no plans on judging. 

Humans are unique like snowflakes, so keep in mind that no vagina is ever the same, as they shouldn’t be, that there is no one definition of a perfect vagina and that there are plenty of steps you can take to reduce the fear of possible bad taste or smell. 

Alright, so now that you’ve shaken that off, it’s time for the good stuff. Here are some of the best tips on how to provide riveting, intimate, and climax-worthy cunnilingus that she will never forget. 

 

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Cunnilingus Foreplay- Take it Slow

Just because cunnilingus is a form of foreplay in itself doesn’t mean you want to jump straight into the action. It is highly advised to practice even more subtle forms of foreplay before progressing into oral sex. 

Help your partner to feel stimulated by teasing her for extended periods. Prolonged kissing, light touches over the clothing, and a sly compliment about her beauty and what you plan to do to her go a long way. 

Never rush cunnilingus, and for an added effect, make sure you undress her slowly and appreciate her vulva by kissing over her panties before fully exposing it. 

The longer you make her want it, the better it feels when it is given, so please take your time and practice foreplay before cunnilingus. 

Promote Lubrication

Just because oral sex involves the mouth doesn’t mean it’s guaranteed to be soaking wet. Tongues can create friction, especially when you also use your fingers during cunnilingus, and it’s the provider’s job to help promote natural lubrication to prevent any discomfort by making things plenty wet. 

Use tons of spit, and gently caress the whole of the vagina to spread this lubrication across her entirely before:

  1. Inserting your tongue into the vaginal canal.
  2. Before initiating more vigorous tongue/lip movements and pressures.
  3. And always before using your fingers or a sex toy during the oral. 

To help make sure that you have plenty of saliva to give, ensure that you are nice and hydrated well before your sex, and try to avoid consuming tobacco or cannabis any time close to your sexual interaction

 

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Remember Versatility

Being versatile in your approach is the key to providing good cunnilingus. The clitoris might be the goldmine, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of other beautiful jewels worth paying attention to when pleasuring your woman. 

Although you should focus on clitoral stimulation, that by no means is the only place to put all of your oral attention. The vagina is a complex sex organ, and you should make sure that your tongue explores every inch of it, both inside and out. 

You never know what your partner’s sweet spot is until you discover it, as all women are different, and the discovery is half the fun anyway. So even if the clitoris is her go-to choice for orgasm, be the one to also introduce stimulation of the labia, for example. 

All of her pleasure is connected, and by being versatile with where you move your tongue and lips, you can help connect the dots to this connection and provide the best oral she has ever had. 

Tongue Skills

Mastering your tongue skills won’t happen the first time, so don’t expect that. But by being cognizant of your partner the entire time you provide oral, you will soon pick up on clues to the types of tongue movements she likes and what works best for her. 

The clitoris is extremely sensitive, and with this, it is required to start slow. Remember, lubrication with saliva is a great place to start, and then you can follow this up with soft, gentle kisses along her labia and up to her clitoral hood to get her warmed up. 

Don’t begin with extreme amounts of pressure and licking ‘like a lollipop’- that just doesn’t work. 

And although the tip of the tongue might feel incredible for some women, most prefer flattened tongues. Flattened tongues promote simultaneous stimulation of the entire vagina, and soft, big, and long strokes that follow from the opening of the vagina (the vestibule) all the way to the clitoris are go-to techniques that she should love. 

Take mental notes of the different movements you provide and how she responds with her body language, and hone in on your tongue abilities by remaining consistent with her favorites while avoiding those she doesn’t respond to well. 

Hand Skills

Just because it’s oral doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to use your hands!

Your fingers will add a wondrous form of sensation to your cunnilingus, but only when done right. 

After she is well warmed up, you may want to promote further clitoral stimulation by ever-so-gently massaging it with a lubricated finger. For the best results, do this while your tongue takes care of pleasuring her vaginal walls with slow thrusting movements in and out. 

And vice versa, if your tongue is taking care of the clitoris, try inserting a finger or two (palm facing upwards), keeping them inserted deeply for a full and fulfilling additional sensation to the clitoris-based cunnilingus. 

Sex Toys

Some (or most!) women love sex toys, and that is because sex toys provide to them sensations that can otherwise not be provided by a human being. 

Humans simply can’t vibrate their tongues at the speed that a vibrator does, and therefore it is impossible to provide the same amount of sensation unless we choose to use them! 

Whether a simple dildo to provide internal vaginal stimulation or a wand vibrator to pleasure her clitoris while your tongue remains inside, never be afraid to add a sex toy into the mix while practicing cunnilingus. You’ll gain some serious brownie points by allowing her the fun of her favorite toy in conjunction with the fun of your mouth. 

Ask Questions and Converse

Conveying her likes and dislikes will always be done most efficiently through mature conversation. 

After your sex, ask her what she enjoyed about the cunnilingus, and more importantly, ask her what you can do to improve! She knows herself best, so capitalize on her personal knowledge by being fearless in your approach to improve. 

This will gain you serious respect and appreciation and will work to build confidence in cunnilingus that will further help to promote positivity. 

As well as this, don’t be shy to ask her how it feels as you give oral. There’s never a better chance to change things around than when you are down and dirty, and you can work together to figure out precisely what it takes to discover the fireworks of cunnilingus-induced climax while in the moment!

 

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