Where some may find the idea of allowing their wife or significant other to pursue a sexual relationship with another man (while watching, mind you) to be a terrifyingly scary thought, there are plenty of others who find this to be a kink that very much turns them on.
A cuckold is one of many unique sexual fantasies to exist in our world, but is also one that requires quite an intricate approach considering the general stigma and emotion surrounding monogamous relationships and the ability to comfortably and happily allow this to unfold.
If the idea of a cuckold has ever fluttered through your mind, do know that this is a completely normal kink, and when approached with the correct mindset and strategies in place with your loved one, it can turn into one of the most enjoyable of sexual encounters. So if you don’t know how to make this wildly erotic fantasy come to life, we are here to help!
What is a Cuckold?
A cuckold is a sexual experience of willingly watching your significant other have sex with someone else while in your presence, and receiving sexual satisfaction from doing so.
The fantasy of a cuckold falls within the realm of masochism. Masochism, as you may know from the greater world of BDSM, is the enjoyment of receiving pain within a sexual setting.
In terms of pain within this fantasy, a cuckold steers away from whips, spanking, choking, and other forms of physical punishment. A cuckold is very much a mental game, and a game of mental pain that some fully enjoy.
Although cuckolds do not have to be gender-specific, they are generally undergone by a male and female partner, of which the female performs sexual intercourse with another man.
He who watches his wife or girlfriend in bed with another man is sexually satisfied through the humiliation and/or competition that arises with these encounters. Being left out of the intercourse and instead forced to watch from afar is exactly why they enjoy this type of fetish.
How to Approach a Cuckold
If a cuckold is something of which you are interested in pursuing, especially if it is new within your relationship, there are a few ways of which you can approach this fantasy with your partner for the utmost success.
Conversation
You will never break the barrier of making the fantasy of a cuckold a reality until it can be brought up in conversation with your partner. And the honest truth is that if you do not feel comfortable enough with bringing up these types of conversations, then you may not be ready (as a couple) for the emotion that follows a cuckold.
Go on a date, have a few glasses of wine, and prepare yourself to bring this up as you chat, ready to make clear your personal reasoning as to why this is something you wish to do.
A cuckold can be a serious endeavor, and it may take multiple conversations before you both feel completely ready, but the key here is the fact that conversation makes it known to your other half that you have this sexual fantasy, and that healthily pursuing sexual fantasies makes for the most fulfilling of sex lives and the happiest of relationships.
Prepare for a Cuckold
As you establish the idea of a cuckold with your partner, preparation for this act is your best friend.
In an effort to further establish this fantasy, the more you prepare for the final act the better!
Because cuckolds are new to most couples, you may want to try watching adult videos that contain this type of fantasy within the film. This will help your significant other realize that this is something that very much occurs within the world of sexuality. This may also make them realize that a cuckold is quite appealing and hot through their own visualization of this in action.
It is also advised to do plenty of research surrounding the subject, and the fact that you are here is an excellent place to start! Continue reading and researching cuckolds, read other couples’ personal stories about them, and learn as much as you can about controlling your emotions surrounding this kinky act.
Cuckold Roleplay
A beautiful aspect about a cuckold is that this really does not have to be done with another human being, whether in the beginning stages (as a way to further prepare) or never at all.
You can perform cuckold fantasy play through role-playing that is safe and that looks out for the emotional health of yourself, your partner, and your relationship.
All it takes is a big, bulging dildo to make this a reality.
Use the dildo in place of the other person, and have fun pretending that this extremity is very much alive and real. Watch as your lover plays with the distant cock from afar, and have her tease you with her words as she rides it wildly, vocalizing the fact that it feels ‘oh so good’, making sure to remind you of how much bigger and how much better it is.
This experience can provide plenty of the humiliation and degradation that you seek, and is the perfect way to experience it in a manner that doesn’t involve another person.
Some may find this to be plenty of fulfillment for their cuckold fantasy, and may never wish to bring in another human, and others may use this as practice and preparation for the real deal.
Choosing Another Partner
If you’re serious about a cuckold, then you are absolutely going to have to navigate the choice and question of “who is the other partner?”
Some may enjoy the experience of going out and physically choosing another person to pursue together. You can watch your wife flirt with other men, or try and do so with her, until alas you come across him who is willing to become a part of this sexual relationship for the night.
Others may find it a whole lot easier to scroll through dating sites. A majority of these sites contain sections that filter the results to those who enjoy MMF (male, male, female) interactions, and together you can scroll through your wide range of options and undergo conversation in a digital format until you both feel comfortable with the other involved. But, as always, use dating sites with caution.
If you want to get really kinky with it, you may be able to find a Gloryhole that allows a cuckold to take place without ever seeing the face of the man on the other side. But do know that gloryholes are sometimes illegal, and always prepare for the risks of sexually transmitted diseases, approaching a Gloryhole cuckold with extreme caution and care.
What Happens Next?
So, you’ve managed to bring the fantasy of a cuckold to life. There is another man in your room who is fully enjoying your significant other, and you are fully enjoying watching them in their element.
Once the climax is reached and the adrenaline and sexuality begin to calm, there will certainly be a rush of emotions for everyone involved, especially if it is your first time.
You may feel regret, shame, or a number of other negative emotions, but do know that these are normal and a part of this experience that is necessary to navigate correctly and with the well-being of your emotions in mind.
To bring yourselves down from this experience, implement the correct forms of aftercare, like drinking a big glass of water, taking a hot shower, or giving/receiving a light massage.
Again, conversation is your best friend. Remember that you did this as a couple, and as the man who wished this fantasy to unfold, never make your loved one feel ashamed for doing what she did.
You simply need to talk to each other, and make yourselves remember that this was done completely out of love and with, although someone else was involved, the sexual fulfillment of YOU in mind.
Just have normal conversations about life, and try to bring yourselves away from sexuality until you can maintain a grasp on the emotions together.
Because remember, you are a couple, and couples who can come out of the other side of a cuckold happy and emotionally intact are some of the strongest and healthiest of couples around, so never feel shame or embarrassment, and instead…
Always feel proud!
Besides, that was fun, wasn’t it?