If you are aiming to please someone with a clitoris to the epitome of sensation, you cannot do so without clitoris stimulation! Merely a simple clit massage will turn her upside down, paving the way to achieving her satisfaction. The more you know about her clitoris, the more options you’ll have to explore the clit massage techniques that take her to tingle town. 

If you are dating someone with a clitoris, feel free to ask about her desires, too. You should frame the question around how engrossed and enticed you are in discovering their true pleasure points, but without putting any pressure on them. 

When it comes to having sex with another person, innovations with consent, vocalization, communication, and understanding her desires are as essential as sex itself. 

That go-to spot that felt right last week? It may have moved three inches over to a new spot! You just never know the changing sexual idiosyncrasies, and catering to the change equals catering to the pleasure. 

So here is the ultimate guide to achieving female stimulation through clit massage, as this is information you should surely take the time to learn, so that you know exactly how to make her beg for your attention. If you are wanting to learn how to rub clit, this guide is the one for you.

Introduction to Anatomy 

The clitoris is more than just a tiny hotspot. It is the key to intensely pleasurable orgasms. 

To dive into its realm and master the art of clit massage, you’ll have to learn the truth about clitoral anatomy. It’s important to debunk the inaccurate concept that the clitoris is a pea-sized, mini version of something similar to a penis. 

Rather, it’s as glorious as a flower that is upside-down, having large petals extending inside the body. It embraces the vaginal canal and can become erect when it’s aroused. 

So don’t focus on what you see externally. There is much more to it than that. 

We’ve reached out to experts and researchers to make a complete step-by-step guide on ways to pleasure her through clit massage. 

Find Her ‘Turn On’ Zones 

The clitoris has a unique shape, so it’s easy to arouse her and make her achieve orgasm by massaging on some other special areas, called erogenous zones, on their own or along with the clitoris. Try her labia, vaginal opening, inner thigh, and perineum.

Clit massage isn’t just about the clitoris!

Have her lie on her belly and reach for her from behind for easy access to her entire body, including the clit. 

The clitoris is a bit shy and takes time to achieve maximal arousal. So, how do you rub the clitoris? Start by stroking near her clit while touching the labia without directly going for the clitoris, just for a bit, until it is excited enough. 

This increases the blood flow to the clitoris, essentially warming it up for further sexual interaction.

Also, if the clitoris is excessively stimulated, slow down a bit, wait for it to calm down, and then start with even more stimulation to prolong the intercourse. Learning how to rub her clitoris is a key here.

Penetration is Basic. 

The clitoris lines the inside of the vaginal canal. That’s why penetrating her vagina, either by penis, fingers, or sex toys, can bring bliss to her.

It should be combined with the below-mentioned external stimulating clit massage techniques to double the delight. Learning how to rub the clitoris will be so beneficial to this! 

Do not penetrate just straight into the vagina. It should be at an angle directed upwards or downwards, as touching the upper part of the vagina rubs the clitoris intensely with every thrusting motion. The use of vibrators may further intensify the orgasm, as these can be placed directly onto the clit. 

Touch Her Thighs   

Regardless of how it’s triggered, every orgasm is a pattern of involuntary contractions. As these muscles also extend into women’s inner thighs, thighs play a vital role in orgasms. 

You are in contact with her orgasmic platform when you touch her inner thighs. Apart from that, thighs are erogenous too. The sense of touch in inner thighs is exclusive to her sexual partners, which results in hyper-awareness of this area, leading to increased pleasure. 

The secret to doing so is to move your fingers slowly up her thighs, or you can slap or grab them with confidence if you (or more importantly, her) enjoy a rough touch to the sex. 

This will make her heart thump wildly, even before you head for the soft spots. 

Flat Frontal Contact 

You can create even more anticipation by holding the palm of your hand over her whole vulva, pressing against it gently or firmly, giving her the warmth of your hand. Hold it in there for as long as you want while you tell her how sexy she is. This will melt her heart, and she’ll surely ask for more. 

Lube play  

Wet your fingers using a quality lube to amplify the fun. Try both water and silicone-based lubes for different experiences. 

This will protect her skin from friction burns and make rough-play much more prolonged and pleasurable. Run your fingers up and down, starting from perineum to clit, and you can run one or two fingers into the vaginal canal now and then for a teasing touch. 

Leading with your index finger, use your thumb to graze her clit with every stroke. Then watch her breath deepen as her body opens up.

Clit Massage Techniques

Whether it uses a penis, hand, or a toy, almost every penetrating position allows for your hands to move up and down or back and forth to simultaneously play with her clitoris and clitoral hood. 

There are several ways you can massage her clit. These range from gentle tapping motions on her clit and hood, slowly building her orgasm (Speed it up if you like), making a peace sign using your first two fingers and gently pinching the clitoral hood while softly tugging up and down, or sliding your fingers back-and-forth. Draw circles around her clit and hood, including labia in the circumference. 

Use Pillows as Props 

The best way for clitoral stimulation is a clitoral massage. Rubbing your clit against any person or object can result in waves of pleasure traveling through your body. It is also possible in a fully clothed body and without needing hands too!

Have her grind her clitoris on an artfully placed pillow or piled-up blankets while you penetrate her vagina with your penis, toy, or your fingers from behind.

Furniture can be Fun 

You can always use furniture for support, especially when you want to stimulate her with your hand during a from-behind penetration. Make her kneel on a pillow on the floor and gently lean her body against the mattress so she doesn’t have to balance on her arm. 

You can also use a headboard or sofa back for this purpose. 

Ride me, Baby 

Your pelvis is the best seat she can sit on, offering her intense clit stimulation as well as a sense of being closer. 

Get seated comfortably in a bed or a chair in a slightly reclining position. Make her straddle on top, and remember that here you can lean forward for a lip-lock, and then make her slide up and down, rubbing her clitoris and clitoral hood on your pubic bone or belly. 

To add to its heat, you or your partner can place a lubed-up finger or thumb beneath her clitoris. Top it with your penis or a toy penetrating her vagina!

Reverse the ride and make her straddle facing away from you. This cowgirl position is applicable for both clitoris-clitoris or clitoris-penis situations. 

You should opt for vaginal penetration in this case and reach a hand around to stimulate her clit, or find what works for you by experimentation.  

High on Thigh position  

You can put a twist on the reverse cowgirl position. 

Make her straddle on your one leg instead of both. Bend your knee so she can ride high on your leg, rubbing herself up and down. Again, vaginal penetration with a toy, hand, or penis can maximize pleasure for her. 

Clit-Oral  

A tongue twister is a way to steam up your foreplay. 

Lay her gently on a bed and start by approaching her from the foot-end, licking her body to stimulate her senses, making your way up to the clitoris slowly and steadily.

Work with your tongue-twisting actions, moving your tongue in circular motions around her clit and touching her labia occasionally. This will instantly turn her on, possibly and hopefully resulting in the mind-numbing orgasms you so seek.

No Rules 

Some clits are so sensitive that she may not want them touched at all. Others yearn for series of rough circular motions and pressures against the pubic bone. Some women simply prefer rubbing from left to right on direct contacts. 

You can just sit back and observe her touching her own body, noting every subtle movement, tension, quiver, and hip raise, eventually learning how to steal her moves. 

The key is to find a balance between her pleasure and comfort and apply what you learned to work. And when you find the right spot or motion that has her going over the edge, just stay there and enjoy the moment and cherish her response, repeating until she is fully satisfied.