Buying my First Sex Toy: What to Consider.

by | Nov 5, 2021 | Sex Education | 0 comments

So you’ve been considering choosing your first sex toy but don’t know where to start? Don’t worry; we’ve got you covered! At V for Vibes, we’ve come up with a comprehensive guide for buying your first sex toy: what to consider and what to stay away from so that you can know exactly what you’re getting into. 

Before you begin your search, you should be able to identify what you like, what feels good, and what doesn’t – keep an eye out for these when you have a sexual encounter or go to pleasure town solo, too! It can be a little overwhelming shopping for your first sex toy, and for that reason, we have broken everything down to the basics with a step-by-step guide for what to look for and what to avoid for the best first sex toy you could possibly buy. 

So let’s get right to it – here are a few things you should keep an eye out for when you decide to purchase your first-ever sex toy. If you’re confused about where to start, feel free to browse our Shop section to get a feel for what’s available in the market, and give the descriptions of each product a read to begin to understand how each toy is crafted at V for Vibes, just for you, and to maximize pleasure. A decision for empowered women and created by empowered women. 


One of the most important qualities to bear in mind when choosing your first sex toy that feels right and works for you is to look at the sex toy material being used. You need to keep your eye out for the “Body Safe” label, or something that suggests it is medical grade and safe to use on your body without risking any reactions or allergies. Make sure the material and substances used – including the lube you get – are all safe for you, and see a doctor if you feel like it has had a reaction with your body. Silicone can give you the most skin-like feel, and with that soft and supple combination of textures, you are more likely to experience a heightened form of pleasure than you could before. All of the toys at V for Vibes are crafted with the highest quality, body safe and medical-grade silicone, so you never have to worry when purchasing from us. 

Don’t be afraid to try out new things; perhaps you might enjoy playing around with temperature or textures, and that might work better for you than a regular silicone vibrator. Just remember that it doesn’t have to look like a penis to get the job done. In fact, a lot of creators are now coming up with innovative designs so that you can enjoy pleasuring yourself to the max without stressing out about many other things. 

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Research, Research, and More Research 

This is a non-negotiable factor, of course. Make sure you read up on the different kinds of sex toys available to you, ranging from sex toys for beginners, vibrators, dildos, anal toys, anal beads, and little suction devices explicitly made for clitoral stimulation

With a variety of sex toys available to us in the modern world, it might be difficult to narrow down exactly what you like and what you don’t, so we suggest you begin with the very basics – ask yourself whether you like clitoral stimulation or a deeper, almost in the vaginal walls kind of stimulation, or perhaps different speed and vibration frequencies that can let you play with the intensity of the toy. Don’t shy away from doing your research. This is your sure shot way of knowing what works for you! 

Give our Shop section a browse if you’re looking to learn more about the different kinds of sex toys available in the market, and perhaps read a few articles or blogs to scour the range available to you! You will be amazed at the different kinds of devices that have been created for almost everyone out there – play around with the textures, materials, settings, and features to really let yourself explore the vast range of sex toys in the world.

Don’t be Afraid to Ask Questions! 

We cannot stress this enough. You might be confused, and that would make a lot of sense considering how wide the range spans and all the new information one suddenly gathers when you enter the world of pleasure and sex toys. If you’re feeling confused, do not be afraid to ask questions! When I was buying my first sex toy, I sure had a lot of questions. 

A simple internet search can answer most of your questions, and if you’d like a more in-depth or detailed answer, feel free to reach out to the manufacturers of the toy you’re interested in for more details. These can be about the ethical production of your toy, or the features it offers, or even something as simple as not knowing whether this will work for you. One of the best ways of getting answers and solutions is to just straight up ask – don’t worry, we’re here to help! 

Ask the manufacturers, or perhaps on a forum created for users of sex toys, what the best options available to you might be, and reach out to the community for further help if you need it. There is no shame in asking for help and asking questions; you will most likely get your answers and might even find out fun and new interesting things you didn’t know before.

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Size & Appearance 

Size and appearance can really impact the performance of your sex toy, but more than that, it can really impact how you feel about the toy itself. Trust us, you’ll need to engage all your senses, and yes, that includes the visual aspect of your sex toy, too, if you’re looking to find the perfect fit. 

Does it look appealing to use? Are you drawn in by the shape and design? At V for Vibes, our expert creators keep the design at the forefront of our products – we make sure our customers use the top-of-the-line products created with medical grade silicone that is body-safe and looks appealing to the user. The color, the size, the appearance, all of that add to your experience of being able to orgasm on your own or with a partner in ways you have never experienced before. 


This might be a crucial factor in deciding the kind of toy you buy, and at the face of it might seem like a great idea to go for the cheapest option available. Keep in mind that cheaper toys are not very sustainable. The few extra dollars you put towards your toy are an investment for your present and future self. You should absolutely feel free to treat yourself to pleasure and good sex toys without any shame. There are multiple affordable options, but if you fancy something more expensive, remind yourself that there is no guilt in self-care and self-love and that you do truly deserve the best! 

Additional Features 

This is the final note we’ve got for you – read the features your chosen toy has to offer, such as speed and vibration frequencies, temperature play, or even different textures and materials to work with. Excite and engage multiple different senses to really feel that full-body orgasm you’ve been dreaming of, and pick the features that are best suited for you to indulge yourself in this world of sex toys and pleasure! 

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