Dealing with a large partner.

Did you know that the average penis, when erect, is about 5.2 inches long? However when it comes to penis length and width, it’s really the use of it that matters over size. There are a few exceptions to this though – when a man has a micropenis, or an extremely large one! 

The latter is something that can be very intimidating to many, who worry about whether a larger penis- if it’ll feel good, and if sex will be pleasurable. While the answers to those are definitely a yes, there are a few things to think about before you hop in bed. Read on for our advice on making it super fun.

You may feel like you’re in the mood and ready to start going, but if you aren’t fully aroused, penetration can be very uncomfortable. It can lead to soreness and rubbing, which don’t feel good the next day. That roughness can result in micro tears in your vagina that can actually cause you to be more likely to get an infection.

When you’re aroused, your vagina elongates and becomes more flexible, to accommodate pretty much any size penis. Those changes happen with foreplay- things like kissing, touching, and oral sex that makes you ready for intercourse. The more stimulated and aroused you are, the easier it is to take a larger penis.

Even if you naturally get very wet, it’s a good idea to have lube near you to help. Lubrication helps to decrease friction, which causes that uncomfortable feeling. Look into a lubricant that is hypoallergenic. Make sure it’s not petroleum-based, which can weaken the latex in the condom and put you at risk of infection or pregnancy.

Condoms are usually one size fits all, but for a larger penis, you want to avoid the risk of it breaking or him feeling like it is choking his penis. He should know what brand and size works best, but it does not hurt to keep a stash of XL condoms on hand for an emergency! Protection is very important. 

Typically with a larger penis size, being in control will keep you from experiencing pain. Being on top facing the  man seems to be one of the best because you can control how much or how little of his penis you are going to take inside. Reverse cowgirl can work, too.

Beyond being on top, experiment with missionary and side-by-side sex. For missionary, you can adjust your leg position to allow more or less penetration. This can also help provide clitoral stimulation. Spooning also prevents his penis from going too deep, and can be a relaxed way to do the deed. Doggy style is usually the one that offers the deepest penetration. That can be a little too much if your partner is well endowed. 

Traditional doggy style, when your hips are raised and legs are spread far apart, lets a guy go really deep, and puts him in control. If you want to do doggy style, it’s important to close your legs together pretty well. This helps to prevent him from going as deep.

Cosmopolitan has also put together some phenomenal tips for dealing with a larger partner here. Remember, sex should be pleasureable and fun. Don’t let size overwhelm (or disappoint) you! Enjoy it, relax, and have fun!