I don’t care what gender or what sexuality you are, I can almost guarantee that the idea of having sex with your best friend, whether entirely serious or imaginative, has flown through your head at least one time.
Humans are sexual beings, and this feeling or urge is not only entirely normal, but it should really just be expected. Having a best friend means being extremely comfortable with another person, which in turn lowers your guard, especially in terms of sexuality, as I am sure you both know of each other’s last sexual experience and what the other’s favorite sex toy is.
And it also means loving someone. Both reasons that would promote the desire to have best friend sex.
Although friendships are special and should more often than not probably remain under the definition of just that, a ‘friendship’, by avoiding any form of intimacy, sometimes best friend sex is actually a good idea. So how the heck are you supposed to be able to tell the difference?
There’s no magic answer for all, but were going to hit on some of the best and some of the worst situations in which you should have sex with your best friend to at least help you direct your decision in the right path, answering why you should or why you shouldn’t take part in best friend sex.
Pure Sexual Satisfaction.
If you have been thinking about having sex with your best friend, then ask yourself, am I just really horny? We all seek sexual satisfaction, and of course, a best friend might end up being a viable option to seek fulfillment of such.
On the positive side of being really horny, your best friend might act as a safe outlet for your desires. You don’t have to try and meet a new stranger and work up to comfortable intimacy, and you can trust that your friend will care about your feelings when done.
The fact that your sex was driven by being horny might actually be a good thing, as sex driven by love is a totally different story, and it will probably be easy to move on and past this interaction.
On the negative side of things, sometimes sex driven by horniness can lead to heightened emotion that then develops into feelings. Before best friend sex, just make sure that you are both the kind of person that can shrug this off once the horniness dies down.
If so, go all in. If you know that this may create problems for yourself or your friend, do yourselves the favor of moving on.
Are you In Love?
Falling in love with your best friend happens all the time. I mean, you’re best friends for a reason, and this creates a form of friendly love that more easily than not can transform into affectionate and sexual love.
If your reason behind wanting to pursue best friend sex is simply because you love them, then you might want to approach this situation with a lot of care to protect both yourself, your friend, and your shared friendship.
If this is the case, then your best bet is to start with a conversation. Never make any random or sudden moves like reaching in for a kiss. If the feeling isn’t reciprocated then this can take them by surprise and damage your friendship. Instead, approach it as maturely as possible and with the conversation.
Talk to them about your feelings and use this as an opportunity to tell them why. By doing it this way, even if they aren’t in the same boat as you, at least you can move on from the situation in a manner that aims to further preserve your friendship.
And if they do in fact feel the same way, this opens up the doors to the mature and long-lasting relationship you are probably hoping for, not just a one-time thing, as you can talk about how you both wish to expand on your newfound sexual relationship.
Are You Seeking Sexual Discovery?
If your best friend is the same gender as you, this might make for the perfect situation for both yourself and them to discover another side of your sexuality through possible gay or bisexual tendencies.
If you have both been curious about having an intimate interaction with the same gender, then your best friend might just be the person you need to be there for you along the way. If they are okay with best friend sex, then you can use your friendship as an opportunity to enter sexual discovery mode without having to navigate a whole new world of same-gender play.
You are already both extremely comfortable with each other, and probably maintain a whole lot of trust, and this can make for one of the safest and most genuine gender discovery situations.
If you are curious about the same gender, then try talking to your best friend about your feelings to see if they might act as a possible outlet to experiment and try new things.
Have you been Triggered?
Is your desire for best friend sex fueled by something that has sparked a high intensity of emotion? Something like a recent break-up that forces upon you the idea of sexual revenge?
If your desires have been triggered by an outside source, then sex with your best friend as the answer to the fulfillment you seek might not be the best idea.
If you really want to have sex with your best friend, then you want to do so because of much more meaningful reasons, like loving the person that they are or finding them incredibly attractive.
Don’t use your best friend as an outlet for sexual frustration that is sparked by outside occurrences, and never go into best friend sex if you have a hot or clogged mind. Best friend sex is delicate, and to preserve your friendship past the sex you must always look out for their best interest.
Practice Makes Perfect.
Sex is one of the most intimidating aspects of humanity of which we all must navigate. It doesn’t matter how many times you have sex or with how many partners, sex is like snowflakes, as it will never be the same.
With this, I believe that we can agree on one thing; that we’d like to be the best that we possibly can be at providing to our partner a sexual experience that leaves their legs shaking after a climax. As with anything, practice makes perfect, and you can never stop getting better at making love.
If you are looking to perfect some form of your sex, whether that be kissing, teasing, or the whole deal, then you can’t really do this without another person involved.
The truth about it is that there’s only one situation in which you could actually practice your sex, and that situation is with your best friend. Your best friend will be able to hear you out and understand your desires and will be one of the only people you can really trust to talk you through an entire sexual experience as a form of ‘practice’ sex.
Although they probably wouldn’t decline, going up to a stranger to ask if you can practice a blowjob on them isn’t a comfortable situation, and instead, you must confide in someone you know and trust.
Not only will this make for a much less awkward experience, but you might even find a ton of enjoyment as you laugh your way through this sex practice, perhaps discovering new turns on’s simply because of the relaxed nature of the intimacy.
If you trust your best friend and can openly talk to them about sex, then if you have been wishing to perfect your lovemaking under the sheets, they might just be the perfect person to get some experience in with.