Have you heard of analingus?
If the word doesn’t strike a recognition within you, then the definition surely will, as analingus is something that many couples regularly enjoy. Or, if you do not regularly enjoy this enticing, kinky, and riveting act, then perhaps after reading this blog it will become a staple to your sex life, as analingus is surely worth pursuing in a comfortable sexual setting!
What Exactly is Analingus?
The term analingus is really just a fancy word for oral sex performed on the anus or the perineum of another. Do not get this term mistaken for ‘cunnilingus’, as that defines oral sex performed on a vagina.
So, if your partner is one that gets turned on by an elegant vocabulary, perhaps think to use this word instead of its rather dubbed down counterpart: ‘eating ass’.
Because in all seriousness, analingus can prove to showcase incredible amounts of pleasure to both males and females alike. It is an excellent method to further explore your sexuality, and since it requires a partner, the kinky nature of it will create a newfound intimacy to your intercourse.
How to Approach Analingus
If analingus isn’t something you have explored with your current partner, and deep down you know you want to, then you are going to have to start by communicating.
Have a little chat over a glass of wine and open up the doors of conversation that lead to sexuality.
Don’t be afraid to ask them (unless you are one to get offended) if they have ever had anal sex performed on the butt, and if so, did they enjoy it?
This will then allow you to express your own desires, and to share how you want to add a little flair and fun to your sex life through analingus.
How to Perform Analingus
Once you’ve talked about analingus, and have agreed that it is something you wish to try, there are a few little things to keep in mind that will make for the orgasm-inducing experience of which you will both crave to try again!
Set a Date
A lot, and often the most fun, of sex is sporadic and unplanned. But there are certain things of which you do in fact need to plan for, and analingus is one of those.
You’ll understand why as you continue reading, but the key here is to simply set aside a definitive date and time of which you two plan to get down and dirty with this unique form of oral sex!
Keep it Clean!
Why set a date? Because you have to keep it clean!
Anal, and analingus, is extremely desirable to most people. But that doesn’t take away from the fact that we are dealing with assholes here, people!
Keeping it clean is the baseline to any anal experience, especially when tounges are involved.
Knowing your plan allows you to prepare ahead of time. Take a nice shower, clean the area well, and perhaps avoid the dinner date for AFTER your legs are finished shaking from climax.
Sex needs foreplay, but even foreplay needs foreplay. Because analingus can be planned and agreed upon ahead of time, this may force you to focus way too much on it.
Don’t get distracted, and although it’s all part of your plan, avoid going down on your partner’s booty until you have both entered a sexual craving through more simple forms of foreplay, like kissing, touching genitals from the outsides of clothing, dirty talk, and more.
This not only gets your body warmed up, but it gets your brain warmed up, bringing out the inner truths to your sexuality to then express them through your actions, creating the desire to get kinky and nasty.
Before introducing your tongue to your partner’s anus, you should start with a little finger play.
This creates a comfortability, as fingers feel less intimate than a mouth, that makes you both feel way more inclined to further up the intensity.
Using plenty (and I mean more than enough) spit, gently massage around your partner’s anus with your finger. You don’t even have to insert your finger, although that is quite enjoyable, and all it takes is subtle anal play to introduce these sensations before the tongue.
You will surely know when it’s time to go down. But before you head right for the glory spot, stick to standard forms of oral sex, whether that be on a penis or a vagina.
Again, this further warms you up, and creates general wetness around the area that reduces friction and increases sensation.
It is also important to note that oral sex to the genitals should not be performed after the analingus. The butt contains specific kinds of bacteria that may cause small infections, such as a yeast infection, when introduced to the vaginal canal, so it is best to keep them separate.
Kiss, Lick, and Stick!
The butthole is sensitive but not quite as sensitive as the clitoris, so you might have to do a little work here with finding what works best.
When you finally introduce your mouth to this region, explore its every inch lustfully with every part of your mouth.
Use your lips to kiss the buttocks as you inch closer to the anus. And no one ever said no to a big ol’ kiss on the bum, as you might as well get cozy and close here!
Spit on it as you proceed, and use your tongue to lick around the area, including the anal opening. Once you know that it is wet enough, try pinching your tongue slowly into it. Although it might be small, you can still thrust your tongue in and out for incredible sensation.
A little spanking as you do so is always a nice touch. You know your relationship best, so anything additional that you can do as you perform analingus, within the comfort of yourselves, is a good thing!
While performing analingus, keep your ears wide open. Listen to your partner, and feel their body responses. You’ll know when they like something, as their moans will echo this fact through the room.
But more important than this is knowing when they don’t like something. If they chose to vocalize that analingus just isn’t working for them, listen to them and stop. Pushing forward won’t do you any good, and you’ll probably never get a second chance this way.
Simply move on and save analingus for another, probably better, day, and always listen to the opinions of your partner for a healthy relationship; both in general, and sexually!