Anal play tips to make it easy for begginers.
So you’re a beginner to anal play? Well, there are quite a few important things to know when gearing up to go “down under”. Anal has a social stigma that has slowly been dissipating over the years as it’s popularity has increased in the mainstream media. However, anal play is not something to just jump in to without knowledge, so read on for some helpful anal tips for beginners.
Keep everything clean!
The first thing you should always do, when asking yourself how do you actually prepare for anal – wash your hands! And your anus. The anus has a lot of bacteria, and you don’t want to risk an infection in that area. This also goes for washing toys, regardless of whether they are going in your anus or your vagina. Infections down there can be extremely painful, so avoiding them is always a good idea.
Just like anal sex, you definitely need lube to enjoy anal play. Lubricant is so important, as your anus doesn’t make its own natural lubrication. You absolutely need lubricant, so pick up a silicone or water-based lube to have on hand. Silicone lubricants tend to last much longer, and are great for in shower play. Water based lubes have less risk of staining your sheets, but definitely must be applied more often.
Since your anus doesn’t make its own lubricant, you have to continue to reapply lube. Do not forget this! It’s ok to need a bit more. You don’t want to risk anal tears and pain when trying to enjoy anal play.
Take it slow during preparation for anal.
You may like it hard and fast in the bedroom, but when it comes to anal, slow and steady wins the race. Start slowly, and work your way up to what’s going inside you. The smaller, the better. We suggest starting with fingers or extremely small anal plugs, before moving on to anything larger. It’s important to remember how delicate this area is. Avoiding fast and jerky motions will assist in preventing any injury or pain, and make it much more enjoyable!
Focus on the outside first.
Your anus has so many nerve endings and muscles, that just shoving something in there is going to be painful. Instead, edge around the anus. Make sure you’re comfortable on the outside with the sensations before you add in penetration. Once your sphincter is more relaxed, take that as your green light to begin trying to penetrate your anus with your finger or an anal toy.
Breathing techniques are very helpful.
Remember to breathe. If you hold your breath, your muscles will be tense, which can make it more painful and difficult to enjoy anal play.. The last thing you want as a beginner is to have tense anal muscles that don’t relax! This is another sign that you are not relaxed enough or ready to try anal sex. Remember, just like vaginal sex, foreplay is key for anal play as well.
Try anal play in the shower!
Anal stimulation can be a little intimidating, and even feel odd or uncomfortable the first time around. If you’re new, try playing with your anus in the shower. You may enjoy the sensation of water on your anus, just like a lot of women do clitorally and vaginally. This is a great way to begin to explore your anal pleasure. If you choose to bring your finger or a toy into the equation, silicone-based lubricants perform much better in water. In fact, we do not recommend a water-based lubricant for shower play.
Do NOT use things not made for your anus.
This means no toothbrushes, no bottles, no anything that’s not made for anal play! Aside from your finger, anything entering your anus should have a base or bigger piece that keeps it from fully entering your anus. You do not want to end up in the ER with something stuck inside you! Please invest in items made for your anus specifically, such as a small anal vibrator, anal beads, or an anal plug set. We sell the Opis anal plug set specifically for this reason, because no one should use things that are incorrect for that area.
Work your way up.
If you’ve just started and a finger feels great, that’s amazing! However, don’t put something else inside just yet. Again, working your way up is vital for the health and wellbeing of yourself and your body. You do not want to put yourself at risk for any injuries or discomfort. Always give your body time to recuperate and see how you feel afterwards. The next session, start out with your finger, and then a small set of anal beads or very small anal plug. Gradually work your way up in size, and remember that patience is key. There should be no feeling of pressure to fit larger toys in, and if anyone is making you feel that way, avoid anal play with them at all costs.
Small movements are better than larger ones.
Try smaller movements before trying to thrust anything inside of you. This will help you gauge your comfort level, and avoid any injuries to your anus. Moving gently side to side, or very slowly in and out at first, and being cognitive of lubricant being utilised is very helpful to enjoy this sensation.
Try dual stimulation during anal play!
Ok, so anal play is enjoyable for you, but you want to step it up? That’s great, now you can try dual stimulation by playing with your clitoris and your anus at the same time. While there are toys designed for this, using your fingers really gives you more control to reach those mind blowing, intense orgasms you crave. Try an anal plug or anal beads, while stimulating your clitoris simultaneously. You can even use vaginal stimulation, but this is more advanced, as it can disrupt the toys in your anus.
When removing your toys..
If you feel like you are so close to orgasming, try to slowly remove your anal plug or anal beads. That final pop of bead coming out or the plug being removed can intensify your orgasm even more. Now go out there and enjoy the forbidden fruits of anal play! We hope you enjoyed the complete guide on how to prepare for anal play. Please, feel free to share your comments below!