Wait, you mean to tell me that you can actually have an orgasm without sexual interaction?!
It might sound crazy at first, but if you have ever wondered if there was such a thing as an ‘accidental orgasm’, then you might be surprised to find out that this is actually something that occurs somewhat frequently throughout both the male and female population.
An accidental orgasm orgasm is the complete climax of your sexual organs entirely unrelated to your sexual self, yet that is some way, somehow connected.
So when most of us need intimate sex to fulfill our wildest fantasies, or to simply lay back with an elegantly crafted erotic sex toy to cum; then what exactly does it mean for those of us who have had (or wonder what it is like having) an accidental orgasm?
So what are the whys, the hows, and the need to know mores? Accidental orgasms are like catching a unicorn, but they make for wonderful stories and might just be indicative that you are living your best life, so let’s get into this lovely little fantasy a little more!
Why Does Someone Have an Accidental Orgasm?
Accidental orgasms can be caused for a few reasons.
The first is still a form of sexual arousal, just not from sources that you might expect.
Instead of the touch of a person or an erotic toy turning you on, these sensations can be derived from literally anything else in the world.
The vibrations from a motorcycle, certain movements running with your legs rubbing together (and yes, that is based on an entirely true story), or realizing that the water from a showerhead hits all your favorite spots just right can trigger this reaction.
Sometimes there’s just no denying when a sensation feels good, and if you accidentally find the nerves of your clitoris stimulated to orgasmic heaven from something other than a human genital, the next thing you know you’ll be wishing you had a new pair of panties to change into.
The other cause of accidental orgasm can be derived from your mind and your thoughts. After all, the brain is quite a powerful tool, and when it sees something it likes, you might not be able to halt this loss of control.
Sometimes your sexual senses are woken up not by touch and feel, and instead by deeply rooted intrinsic desires.
Some of these accidental orgasms occur from feeling spiritually connected to the Earth and yourself.
Maybe it’s the vibrations of light and sound that trigger you, but women often report having an accidental orgasm when they feel grounded and connected to our mother Earth. Like making love to a higher being.
And then there are of course the visuals that lead to dirty thoughts and awakenings. Maybe you saw something you like, and until the very first time you laid eyes on the said thing, you otherwise had no idea this turn on existed. Whatever that ‘thing’ may be depends entirely on you and your psychology, but you can come across a secret turn on and accidentally climax as a result of your mind opening new doors to your sexuality.
The last reason for accidental orgasms is unfortunately a bit less desirable. Known as “persistent genital arousal disorder”, some people’s accidental orgasms are caused by a medical loss of control specific to sexuality and your genitals.
Even worse, this uncontrolled desire is sometimes not even satisfied with a climax. So if you have ever found yourself helplessly losing control on more than one occasion, then you may want to think about seeking professional advice!
What Does Having an Spontaneous Orgasm Mean?
Because some women have an extremely difficult time reaching orgasm, or have never even orgasmed at all in their life, what does it mean for you if you have an accidental orgasm?
Aside from persistent genital arousal disorder, having an accidental orgasm might actually be a really good sign for yourself, your sexuality, and your life!
An orgasm from outside sources can be a sign that you are an extremely mindful and grounded individual. Allowing your body to absorb every sensation, every sound, every vibration that this world has to offer showcases a level of mindfulness indicative of an open-minded and stress-free individual.
This is a great sign of your sexuality as a whole. An accidental orgasm showcases that your body and your mind are connected enough to understand that sensuality does not always have to arise from the ‘common’ places that we are all used to, like another human being. It shows that you are in touch with yourself and that you don’t have a lot of other triggers distracting you from life instances that otherwise turn off your sexual being.
So don’t fret, if you have ever accidentally ended up with soaking wet pants at a time that wasn’t really intended, then just imagine what could happen in a bedroom setting centered around pure erotica, as chances are you will know yourself and your body well enough to have amazing sex when it is intended.
What to do If you Have an Spontaneous Orgasm?
Chances are if you are grounded enough as a person to accidentally orgasm, then when it happens you shouldn’t have too much of a problem figuring out what to do next.
You never know where you will be when this happens, but no matter what the key is to keep an open mind. Don’t let embarrassment get to you, and simply act with a calm mind on figuring out how to clean up and change your clothes. Freaking out and being frantic will only draw more attention and make it harder for your mind to calmly figure out what to do next.
One of the next best things you can do is figure out why you accidentally came. These reasons might hint at some things that you can incorporate into your bedroom play for heightened orgasms in an actual sexual setting.
Learn from your accidental orgasms to further translate this into your love life.
If you have a partner, try telling them about your experience, especially if they were with you. An accidental orgasm is a very rare occasion, and your partner might very much enjoy the idea of you climaxing for a reason other than themselves yet not from another person.
Either way, talking about a subject like this is a sign of a good relationship regardless and will do nothing but help to grow your communication skills in general.
No matter what, if you have an accidental orgasm the key is to simply take it for what it is. Don’t freak out that it happened, don’t try and question yourself or your sexuality too much, and simply let it ride! Use it as a lesson to further learn yourself and how you can make your sex life even better than it already is, and never try and force another accidental orgasm, as the ‘accident’ is the fun part anyway!